Why do guys get married?

[Jiggers]

Just wondering? Thruthfully guys. I’m not thinking aout it at all. I don’t even want a girlfriend. I don’t have the urge to merge. Maybe I”m not human and don’t know it. Maybe being middle aged and getting older, it doesn’t matter to me anymore. I can see the obvious answers coming here though.

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[JanS]

There’s all sorts of things that a woman could say about men wanting to get married, but I think we should refrain here and let the men speak for themselves. Interesting question, jiggers, and I’m betting on some very interesting answers ;->

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[Carson]

Jiggers,

Are you serious? Buddy, its all about the Dowry! I really worked my new father-in-law and got not only a cool dog thrown in but a 10 year old VW Jetta!!

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[JanS]

carson, we heart you :)

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[Blend]

somebody to make you food, somebody to keep you warm, somebody to wash those stinky wet clothes you throw in the corner, somebody to love you even when your feet smell super bad, somebody to put up with your stinky farts, somebody to do it with any time you want…(that’s just to name a few)

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[DP]

This is the set-up of the century.

Perhaps what Jiggers really meant to ask was: Why do guys get re-married?

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[Blend]

cause they traded up?

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[DP]

ACC: Ouch!!!

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[HMC Rich]

misery loves company

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[HMC Rich]

I love my wife but you notice I have a picture of my dog posted.

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[JanS]

uh oh, Rich…does she read the forums? your wife, I mean….;-)

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[Kimberley]

Hey – that looks like a smart dog s/he could read the forums too!

The life insurance? Cheaper rates on car/home insurance?

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[JoB]

guys get married because when life hits them in the face with something they really didn’t expect and didn’t deserve..

it’s really nice to know that someone has your back…

and contrary to popular myth…

wives are really good at that.

sometimes … husbands are too :)

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[MarySheely]

Don’t worry, Jiggers — I don’t think you’ll ever have to face this question in real life. ; )

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[Jiggers]

Men are able to trade up when we get older because we have become more successful, hopefully. Men’s stock do rise when they get older. I’m clueless why a young girl would want to go out with immature guys her own age. I know why, because society says it is wrong to go out with a much older successful dirty old man eh? A 19 year old girl is 7-10 years more mature than a 19 year old male. Anyways, if a man thinks he’s going to get more yum yum when he get’s married….lol

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[JanS]

and, jiggers, this goes the other way…a woman, as she gets older, and the men get older, too, can “trade down”…get a newer model. Women do that..for many reasons…it’s a two way street. Why would I want a “dirty old man”, who simply wants me to cook, clean, and help with the RV? lolol…

of course, I have my own theories about marriage…that’s for another time and place ;-)

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[Blend]

yer dog does look cool Rich :)

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[JoB]

jiggers…

what makes you think that a man who ditches his wife to marry a younger model is trading up?

One of the things i am sure of as i age is that 24/7 conversation with someone who doesn’t have a clue about the world you grew up in gets really old really fast.

hubby is only 5 years younger than i am and there are still great conversational divides we can never truly cross.

the lure of a younger model doesn’t last long and is pretty dang expensive… most men find they have to continually trade “up” to retain that new car smell.

Truth be told it’d probably be cheaper and a lot more fun to rent the occasional high class call girl for an evening of arm candy and entertainment than to marry “up”.

men marry “up” to reclaim the adoration they think they lost in the process of becoming a partner… and it’s a really stupid move.

that adoration thing goes fast with the kind of woman who is more impressed with your assets that with you.

they should get a dog. with a dog you are guaranteed a lifetime of adoration, the cost benefit ratio is a lot higher and you get to keep the partner who loves you in spite of everything you have done to try to talk her out of it.

that love comes in really handy when life goes bump.

besides..

a well kept and well loved man lives longer

that benefit doesn’t extend to women :(

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[Blend]

maybe they trade up cause the wife lets her body and her personality go. Sometimes people (men and women) get lazy in their relationships. They think they don’t have to take care of themselves anymore. They only did that in the beginning to attract a mate. But if you aren’t taking care of yourself and you are constantly nagging at your spouse and being a lame-o..then trading up is a great idea :)

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[JanS]

My parents will celebrate their 65th wedding anniversary on Oct. 20th of this year. They are..old..85 and 86. They have been through a lot together. When you love someone, truly love them, you stick with them, thick or thin, good and bad. You compromise, you talk, you argue, you sometimes gain and lose weight, you sometimes have an ugly side. Too many people treat marriage like it’s “going steady”…it’s not..it takes work at times.

Someone who cuts and runs at the slightest imperfection, illness, etc..isn’t worth holding onto in the first place. We are more than arm candy for some guy. Men who think that the person they married has gotten complacent and “doesn’t take care of herself” need to seriously look in the mirror a bit.It’s a two way street on that one.

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[Carson]

Bottom line is marriage is not for everyone. If you can’t compromise and give a little, the single life might be perfect for you. On the other hand, I love to listen to my wife sleep at night and nuzzle up next to her. She is easily the best chef in West Seattle (serious) and with great joy I built her a kitchen to match her skills! We travel well together, she has her bathroom and I have mine. We do have TV issues on the weekends, but that’s easy enough to solve!

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Stay single Jiggers, it seems to fit you!

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[ws4ever]

Wow, Jiggers, the big dogs are rolling you on this one.

My ex-husband traded “up” to marry someone who had kids and stood to inherit lots of money, and she married him for his money and a green card. I think they understand each other and both deserve each other! And I mean that in the best and worst ways, both at the same time. With time, women see through charades and posturing and aren’t impressed by it any more. For some men the feeling that someone younger “adores” them (and doesn’t understand them) is the right chemistry for “love”. Tick, tick, tick.

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[bliss]

Old school was -men married so he could secure that no one else would ‘have’ her. But looks like Rich doesn’t care- more interest in the dog. I’d get some therapy buddy- no offence, just a really good warning sign.

I have also heard we marry the best we think we can get. If your not interested in marriage it may be because “done that – been there”. Or no one has made you feel loved and special!!!!

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[JoB]

AlkiCabCompany…

shame on you for implying that married women “let themselves go” because they think they don’t have to try any longer.

that’s a shabby little stereotype….

Most married women i know didn’t “let themselves go” until their mates lost interest…

it’s really difficult to invest the time in looking and feeling sexy when the person whose attention you seek has stopped looking at you.

btw… that whole idea of “letting yourself go” which usually translates to another way of saying “she got fat” is another shabby little stereotype.

There is nothing sexier than a twinkle in the eye

and nothing guaranteed to keep it there like a loving and attentive mate.

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[Blend]

women and men do it. I was not saying it was just women. and of course there are exceptions. but still…how long do you expect to stay with someone who does this? of course work with them and give them a chance but after awhile..it’s best to find someone who is better for you. but I guess you have to have a desire to live a healthy happy LIFE to understand exactly what I am saying. People who are negative about themselves and let themselves go are energy suckers and after so long I believe it is acceptable to let them go if they refuse to accept your help.

and as far as letting yourself go because your mate has lost interest..that just don’t make sense. If your mate loses interest then the letting go has already happened. Instead of letting go even more..get out there and get his/her attention again. And this is not all about looks. Just having a great outlook on life and being happy and positive is going to make someone wanna stick with you no matter how you look.

But really people, don’t jump all over me because I would rather have a better life with a happy positive person than some person who is going to be lazy and negative and suck all my good energy out. There is a point in your life when you just have to let go of those type of people for your own sanity. So if you are with a energy sucker..I believe it would be a “trade up” to get with someone who is positive healthy and happy.

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