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March 31, 2009 at 10:45 pm #590319
bsmommaParticipantWe were out and about on Sunday enjoying the BEAUTIFUL weather. Our 2 year old daughter had a (stomach turning) accident and has a huge lump on her forehead and black eyes. It is hard to see,trust me, I get that. Her spirits were not damaged by any means. She’s super friendly and says HI to everyone. For adults to look at a child, grimmace and look away/ignore a little kid that says HI is just rude. As a mom, it just broke my heart to see the disappointment in her cute little bruised up face. I also received some lovely comments from people that are missing the “edit” brain cell. It’s not funny for someone to jokingly say, “What an abusive mother, I’m just kidding, What Happened?” How tacky. I was thoroughly dissappointed.
March 31, 2009 at 10:51 pm #662819
AnonymousInactiveWelcome to the pretentious upper West Seattle area where image is everything.
March 31, 2009 at 11:18 pm #662820
WSMomParticipantWhen my little guy was born he had a large red bumpy birthmark on the top of his head. It disappeared by the time he had hair, but I was rather surprised by the comments I received about my beautiful boy. These comments came from everywhere and many were thoughtless (“joking” that I should be more careful and not drop my newborn!) The good news is that at age 2 I don’t think she’ll remember the accident or the annoying people. I believe these kinds of experiences are harder on Mom than anyone else. I hope her bruises heal very quickly and that you two have a good rest of the week!!
April 1, 2009 at 12:48 am #662821
IrukandjiParticipantSo sorry to hear about crappy people – you can find them most places. Give her a hug and a smooch from the rest of us in the Admiral area.
April 1, 2009 at 1:50 am #662822
christopherboffoliParticipantbsmomma: I’m sorry that those insensitive comments upset you. But maybe those people weren’t trying to be mean. Maybe their verbal incontinence was just a product of the natural anxiety people have when they see injured children. Obviously, I don’t know them and maybe they were just a little thoughtless. But it seems plausible to me that there might be a natural, human reaction to seeing a big, honking injury on a cute, cuddly little one.
I think of how uncomfortable it is to be stuck in an airplane with a crying baby nearby. I’m sure a lot of people have been in that situation and it is never fun, for the parent with the baby or the people around them. All kinds of noises can be annoying but the sound of crying babies can be especially irritating because I think we humans have evolved specifically to be alarmed/uncomfortable/attentive to the sound of a crying baby. The sound ignites something primal in us. Maybe seeing an injured child touches the same unconscious nerve.
Maybe? Just a theory.
Anyone with kids probably knows how easy it is for kids to get themselves into trouble in the blink of an eye. You really shouldn’t take it personally or as if it is an attack on your parenting skills.
I hope your little one is on the mend.
April 1, 2009 at 3:48 am #662823
JanSParticipantand…are you sure these were “Admiral” residents? I think these rude comments, etc. could happen anywhere…it just happened to you in the Admiral District that day.
Luigi “Welcome to the pretentious upper West Seattle area where image is everything. ” That statement is a load of crap, and you know it. I’ve been in the Admiral District for 10 years, and it’s a mix of pretentious, poor, middleclass, caring, wonderful people…;just like your neighborhood. Way to show a bit of class warfare, and prejudice..
I’m so sorry about your daughter, bs momma. I suppose the first thing that came to my mind when you said that she was injured, was..hope she’s OK…and then ” hamburglar”, with a mask…so sorry..it was a cute picture in my mind, and not meant to be cruel and thoughtless.
Bottom line..thoughtless people are everywhere..and so sorry it happened to you. I once was shopping at Safeway when my hair was growing back after chemo…it was about 1/4 inch long…and a little girl in a cart kept staring, and saying to her mom that”Mom, that woman is a boy”, over and over…and the mom just let it happen..never said a word…I just smiled.
April 1, 2009 at 4:18 am #662824
JoBParticipantbsmomma…
there are jerks everywhere.. even in the admiral district.
even though a few jerks can really stand out, thankfully not everyone is as thoughtless or insensitive..
i hope your little one heals soon and am glad the accident didn’t traumatize her too much to enjoy life.
it takes good parents to teach children how to smile in the face of adversity. Both the ability to make lemonade when life hands her lemons and the ability to look past the jerks to those with smiles in their eyes and love in their hearts will take her far in life.
she sounds like she is already well on her way to success.
and.. so are you.
April 1, 2009 at 4:22 am #662825
AnonymousInactiveIt was my intent to get a rise, and apparently I did ;-)
I took off and ran with Bsmomma’s sentiment because I’ve experienced the same feelings on several occasions when doing business in the Admiral area. That’s why I stick to the Junction, Westwood, and White Center – I’m not fond of the attitude up yonder.
Besides, JanS – you’re over reacting. You know as well as I do there’s a logical, physical, and economic distinction between Admiral and the rest of West Seattle. It is evident in the attitude of folks that live there, the class and type of commerce, and the cost of housing (in 2007 it was about $40k – $50k less to buy a house in Arbor Heights than in Admiral). Class warfare indeed.
I’ll continue to frequent the businesses and establishments down here below the Mason-Dixon line, thank you very much.
April 1, 2009 at 4:27 am #662826
JoBParticipantLuigilinguini…
you forget the apartment dwellers on low incomes in the Admiral district.
generalizations are the same everywhere.. sometimes they fit.. sometimes they don’t.
April 1, 2009 at 4:27 am #662827
datamuseParticipantLuigilinguini, our neck of the woods is many things, but below the Mason-Dixon Line it ain’t. ;)
April 1, 2009 at 4:29 am #662828
AnonymousInactiveAgreed, except apartments aren’t cheap and generalizations are.
April 1, 2009 at 4:32 am #662829
JanSParticipantThen LL, I should consider you low class because you don’t live in my ‘hood? Not hardly…get to know us…I don’t make much money, just happen to have a good deal to live here…and I’m sorry….but I totally disagree with you. You can’t form an opinion without getting to know us. I like you…but maybe you need to be a bit more open in your thinking :)
April 1, 2009 at 4:48 am #662830
JoBParticipantluigilinguini..
take a closer look at the neighborhood.. there are inexpensive apartments nestled among the condos in Admiral…
i don’t think you will get much upscale vibe from the Admiral Pub… and you should check out what i think is called revolution coffee house…
I live closer to Westwood than anything.. and i spend a fair amount of time in the southern part of our peninsula.. but have found both good friends, good food and good deals in the Admiral district.
I will give you the same advice i give to people who tell me it isn’t safe to get out of the car in white center…
try it.. you will be pleasantly surprised.
April 1, 2009 at 4:55 am #662831
AnonymousInactiveJanS – I forgot to add this bit to my scathing rebuttal of your highly accurate and tactical post….I LIKE YOU!
April 1, 2009 at 5:01 am #662832
JanSParticipant:) I love to be liked
April 1, 2009 at 5:12 am #662833
AnonymousInactiveY’all are gangin’ up on me again, but I’m not afraid to back pedal if necessary as I am only 1/2 redneck and I like you people.
Look, I’m obviously off-base here. The Yen Wor is in the Admiral area and that is the BEST karaoke drinking championship bar in ALL West Seattle. If you’re saying I can look to the Yen Wor for inspiration then I’ll do that and I will belt out some Three Little Pigs in honor of the Admiral and cast aside my written transgressions here in this forumblog.
April 1, 2009 at 6:06 am #662834
JoBParticipantApril 1, 2009 at 8:17 am #662835
SivaHPMemberI have definately seen a mix of people everywhere in West Seattle. I have lived half my life in North Admiral and half my life really close to Westwood village.
There are some differences, but I really don’t feel like there are a lot. I don’t feel like I went from living in a gated rich community of Bel Air, CA to downtown L.A., CA.
I never found the people I in N.Admirl to be snotty.
April 1, 2009 at 2:48 pm #662836
OlMomParticipantIt is a little late in the thread but I have to say that I had the same experience as WSMom. My daughter had a birthmark on her head and I got all kinds of comments. The one I remember most is when we were getting bids to put in a bathroom. The contractor looked at her and said in a most disgusted voice “What is that on her head?” He lost the job right then and there. He could of been the best and cheapest bid but there is no way I was going to do business with him.
April 1, 2009 at 3:05 pm #662837
bsmommaParticipantI’d like to take back singleing out people in the Admiral area. It could have happened anywhere. I have lived in the Admiral area for almost 30 years. I can’t compare the good and bad things because they are probably equal. But trust me, I have had my fair share of both! I love the Admiral Area. I’ve moved away and moved back 3 times. There are snotty, rude, mean people everywhere you go. There are also kind and nice people everywhere. So, with that said my Rant wasn’t suposed to be about the Admiral Area. Being a mom that wants to raise a wonderful, compasionate, respectful human being, sometimes I expect that’s what everyone does. And they probably do. But have different ways of doing it. If my daughter is starring at someone with a handicap, no hair because of an illness, etc. I nudge her and tell her to say Hi. And she does. I hope this is teaching her that we are all different and things happen that make people look different. I sure wish more parents would have taught there children that too. My daughters’ bruises look like they’re getting lighter. If you were to see her though you’d be shocked that they look better! She’s a smart cookie and is definitly aware of what’s going on. A little boy had asked why she was wearing make-up. She pulled up her bangs to show him the bump and told him she fell and got a bruise but was ok. She amazes me.
April 1, 2009 at 3:08 pm #662838
bsmommaParticipantOlMom reminded me of something else! My daughter has a birthmark on her upper arm by her shoulder. It looks like a raspberry. People ask all the time, Oh what happened? I have learned to just smile and tell them that’s her birthmark, her one little imperfection. =)
April 1, 2009 at 3:33 pm #662839
AnonymousInactiveLOL! This looks like my spam folder.
April 1, 2009 at 3:55 pm #662840
WSratsinacageMemberbsmomma, I hear what you are saying.. I’ve experienced adults ignore my kids all over Seattle when they were 2 or 3. My kids were just saying hi, like yours. I realize people are not obligated to say hello or acknowledge another human but it is extremely rude behavior. Also, to ignore a child who says hi, hi, hi, and for the adult to not even glance in their direction when they are 2 feet away. It is just inexcusable IMO, unless the other person is deaf or has some other disability.
April 1, 2009 at 4:14 pm #662841
beachdrivegirlParticipantI honestly dont understand how adults can be mean and/or ignore any child, and am sorry to you bsmomma and others that this seems to be the case occasionally.
April 1, 2009 at 4:23 pm #662842
JanSParticipantI have thought about this very thing while I’m flirting with a little child in a grocery cart. They’re so open to playfulness, and so cute when they respond, giggle, laugh. But…I’m a parent of a now grown daughter, and as parents we remember that we are strangers to these children, and I suppose we remember that fine line where the child’s parent teaches to not be so friendly to strangers, but a little child will be playful, and..when we respond, are we gonna negate the “be careful of strangers” education these parents are doing? Yeah, I’ve thought of that as I respond to the ones who say hi.
In a perfect world it wouldn’t matter, but…when reality rears it’s ugly head, we remember that not all friendly people are friendly just to be friendly.
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