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January 22, 2008 at 7:19 pm #586285
AnonymousInactivePlease tell me what we did wrong: I went to our daughters school (Roxhill) and delivered cupcakes and invites for the entire class for ice skating. We did not receive not 1 call to RSVP for the party, only 1 girl and her Mom bothered to show up at the rink. What is with people! We wrote our phone number on each and every invitation. This is so rude! We will instead get to know the kids in her swim class and not bother to intite the kids from Roxhill since their parents can’t bother to call or show up at the party. Too bad because alot of the kids were excited to skate for the first time and our daughter was all excited about her upcoming party. I am fully aware there are more important things going on in the world now, but to not even call that is rude!! How darn hard is i to pick up the phone and call?
We tried the neighborhood school, it didn’t work out and we had no playdates, not 1! We left that school because of academics and now our daughter has moved up a grade since being at Roxhill, but now we find there most likely won’t be any parties or playdates.
Also, what is with the schools having all these diversification parties to celebrate other traditional celebrations but in an elementary school no holiday (we say Christmas in our house!), no observation to Thanksgivings Day, and most likely no Valentines Day party and so on?
Shame on you Roxhill parents!
Also, on your blog about the Seattle Freeze, I have had more of the freeze from other parents!
January 22, 2008 at 7:50 pm #614212
JimmyGMemberI don’t think RSVP’s are out of style, any invite I get I respond to. Too bad the parents in your child’s class don’t seem to understand.
(So cinnamon you used to be lattemom, right? Why the name change?)
January 22, 2008 at 8:03 pm #614213
AnonymousInactiveNo, I am new to the board. And thank you for saying you respond to an invitation you receive. I can’t understand what happened other than the parents just chose to not reply. We threw our son and daughter both parties the last 2 years and had a wonderful time as about 20 kids came. It is never about the gifts, but to have fun with the other kids. I feel bad because our son’s birthday is coming up too and I don’t want to have the same outcome.
January 22, 2008 at 8:17 pm #614214
JimmyGMemberWell you should really contact lattemom as you both have kids at Roxhill after having them at another WS elementary school, you’ve both tried to have parties for your kids where nobody (or very few kids) showed up, and you both have used Little Pilgrims daycare.
So look her up…
January 22, 2008 at 8:24 pm #614215
ErikParticipantlol @ Jimmy. They also both have kids in swim class.
January 22, 2008 at 8:27 pm #614216
KayleighMemberAnd both appear very exciatable about other people’s malfeasance.
But to the topic: I recently gave a bridal shower where I had 18 invitees and NO RSVPs. I had to call people the week before, and everybody expressed shock–of *course* they planned to come. And they all came. They just didn’t RSVP.
January 22, 2008 at 8:39 pm #614217
swimcatMemberI have to say, this is one of my big pet peeves as it seems to happen constantly around here. If the host is going to take a bunch of time to plan a party, buy things for it, etc… you can take 30 seconds to RSVP (more like 10 seconds with Evite). It’s not that hard. And Erik, your observation is too funny.
January 22, 2008 at 8:39 pm #614218
AnonymousInactiveReally?? That is funny!! Maybe I have a twin I didn’t know I had! No, I am not this lattemom! We swim at the Arbor Heights Pool so Lattemom if you are on this board maybe your kids are at the same pool as we are. As for the similarities of no one showing up at the parties, it happens unfortunately. Does she also have other kids since we have 4 kids who swim, take dance class and 3 of them moved to Roxhill.
January 22, 2008 at 8:41 pm #614219
AnonymousInactiveI couldn’t even call the invited guest as the school has a policy of not giving out personal information except the students name. Not even an email address either!
January 22, 2008 at 8:50 pm #614220
AnonymousInactiveHi JimmyG: I just looked up Lattemom and I couldn’t find any mention of her talking about Little Pilgrims, you have my interest in finding out who she is since yes our kids went to Little Pilgrims, most recently 3 years ago so I wonder if she is one of the non-speaking people I saw before and after school each day?
January 22, 2008 at 8:53 pm #614221
AnonymousInactiveKayleigh I wanted to say you having to call guests for your own party is sad!! And since we rented a space I had just afew days before the scheduled party to cancel and give the space to another family.
And “m” what is Evite? I hd never heard of it before. I don’t even have any email sddresses so I guess I couldn’t have used that for this last party.
January 22, 2008 at 9:04 pm #614222
SueParticipantCinnamon, here’s the link to the post that was discussed about lattemom: https://westseattleblog.com/blog/forum/topic.php?id=104&replies=18
January 22, 2008 at 9:14 pm #614223
AnonymousInactiveSue, Thank you for posting the info on Lattemom that is just too weird we do sound alike but I can assure you I am not Lattemom! I just joined this blog the 21st. I guess I will have to look at the class list from both schools and see if I can find out who Lattemom really is!
January 22, 2008 at 9:44 pm #614224
JimmyGMemberAnd you have nearly identical posting styles, i.e. use of exclamation points, post after post in one thread, etc.
Quite amazing really.
January 22, 2008 at 10:00 pm #614225
WSMomParticipantSo Cinnamon, do you have an opinion about people cursing in public?
January 22, 2008 at 10:07 pm #614226
AnonymousInactiveNo, it is their own business pretty much, why?
January 22, 2008 at 10:09 pm #614227
CMPParticipantLOL about the lattemom comparison to cinnamon! Evite is an electronic invitation website where you can create your own invitation for events and parties…really great. And you can see who actually viewed your invitation so if they never respond, you can give them grief for not RSVP’ing. Which a lot of people don’t bother with. It really is as easy as selecting Yes, No, Maybe, click. No excuses!
January 22, 2008 at 10:11 pm #614228
JulieMembercinnamon, I can see how frustrating this experience was for you and your daughter.
It is quite possible that at least some of those invitations you so generously delivered did not make it home; elementary school students are notorious for not delivering things to their parents, even if they’re excited about the opportunity!
Keep in mind, too, that several of your child’s classmates’ parents may not read or speak English fluently; they might not have known what to do. Even if they did, they might have been hesitant to try to communicate.
It is also entirely possible that at least some of the lack of response is due to rudeness, or excessively casual manners. The only remedy I can come up with for this one is for you to teach your daughter correct etiquette. I’m sure she’ll be careful in future to RSVP, having experienced first-hand the consequences. It sounds like you’re teaching her kindness (inviting the whole class was teaching her about not leaving people out, a common problem with school-delivered invitations!). I’m sure you’re also teaching tolerance, and to assume the best of people.
January 22, 2008 at 10:25 pm #614229
AnonymousInactiveHi Julie! Thanks I am trying!
January 22, 2008 at 11:30 pm #614230
JeraldParticipantThis doesn’t have to do with the RSVP issue, which I agree is very sad.
I noticed that you said only one parent/child “bothered to show up at the rink.” I don’t know of any ice rinks in this area and I would have been surprised, as a parent, to be expected to transport my child to (and from) Renton or Lynnwood for a party. This might be especially difficult for some of the Roxhill families, for various reasons.
January 23, 2008 at 12:04 am #614231
AnonymousInactiveHi Jerald,
Good point! However, the party was scheduled at the Seattle Center Ice Skating Rink which now is closed until next November. I am fully aware that there are no non-drivers or persons at Roxhill who do not own a car, but this place was very easy access via a bus.
Last year at her other school we had a party in Lynnwood and the year before that at a location in Federal Way which was easy because everyone drove.
We have driven as far as Kirkland so our kids could attend a birthday party, and I would never expect anyone else to drive our kids to a party. If we are available no matter where the party is located we go.
January 24, 2008 at 4:43 am #614232
karenParticipantI just wanted to say that some people still RSVP. I sent out invites two days ago and have already received RSVPs from everyone.
January 24, 2008 at 7:36 am #614233
BonnieParticipantCinamon, a lot of the parents at Roxhill may not even speak English. That might be part of the problem. They get something they don’t recognize and can’t read it and don’t bother to respond.
I always do my invitation through evite or personal email now…but of course if you don’t have their emails you can’t do that.
Good luck getting your daughter involved with some of the kids at swim class.
Also wanted to point out that when people don’t rsvp to me, I give them a bad time. LOL! That is one of my pet peeves.
January 24, 2008 at 3:55 pm #614234
AnonymousInactiveHi Bonnie,
I just checked with the teacher and asked her if the parents of these kids speak English and she said they all do, only 1 parent speaks broken English so the language wasn’t the problem. And yes, it makes it more difficult not having emails addresses to send invites.
February 6, 2008 at 2:21 am #614235
sanMemberIf anyone is interested, Cinnamon, AKA Lattemom, is now going as NewResident.
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