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August 8, 2012 at 4:26 pm #604305
JiggersMemberI figured out the guy part.
August 8, 2012 at 4:55 pm #766175
DannyQMemberHilarious! I’m only 23, so teach the young grasshopper what you know!
August 8, 2012 at 5:52 pm #766176
karenParticipantOh my! I’ve been married for 13 years so I have a little experience – not as much as some but I’ll give it a shot!
What do I (a female) get from being married?
Well,
someone I can blame for everything that goes wrong, even if it’s my fault,
someone to nag when I don’t feel like doing a job myself
Someone to assign horrible, dirty, disgusting jobs, to
Someone to get spiders out of the house
someone to move the couch 14 times while I try to figure out where it goes
someone to fill the gas tank even though I drove it to empty
someone to go out at night and get ice cream, coffee, whatever
someone who puts up with me when I’m tired, grumpy, sick, annoying, oh the list goes on!
Tell me again – what does he get out of it?
August 8, 2012 at 5:54 pm #766177
JoBParticipantAugust 8, 2012 at 6:19 pm #766178
SJoyParticipantIf you don’t see what’s in it for you to be married… don’t get married… if getting married to the right guy is the right thing for you… you will see what’s in it.
As someone who has been married for 13 years – it’s a lot of hard work, tears, compromise, stress, great family times, love, satisfaction… I can go on and on of the good and the bad but if you don’t have that voice saying that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person… there is nothing for you in marriage right now.
August 8, 2012 at 6:30 pm #766179
JoBParticipantmy advice to young women who are silly enough to seek it before getting married…
don’t do it
unless…
no matter how p..d off you are at yourself you just can’t give him up
marriage’s benefits don’t come easily
like everything else worth having they require a lot of sacrifice and hard work
you have to really want your marriage to work to invest in it
even after 20 years ;->
August 8, 2012 at 11:16 pm #766180
miwsParticipant….someone to move the couch 14 times while I try to figure out where it goes….
karen, shouldn’t that have the addendum; “…only for it to end up back in its original spot”? ;-)
Mike
August 8, 2012 at 11:47 pm #766181
JiggersMemberCould money/security be a factor in her decision?
August 9, 2012 at 1:24 am #766182
JoBParticipantjiggers..
could money/security be a factor in his decision?
my son’s wife makes far more than he does
but i am pretty sure that had nothing to do with why he married her
August 9, 2012 at 1:49 am #766183
karenParticipantSo Mike – you’re married? ‘Cause that sounds like a personal experience!
JoB – money, security was not a factor. I was self sufficient, paid my own way, fixed my own car, etc. It was really all about liking the guy enough to not kill him when he left his dirty socks on the floor!
And yeah, it can be a lot of work, but it’s also a lot of fun. I mean, I live with my best friend, how much better does it get?
August 9, 2012 at 2:06 am #766184
miwsParticipantNo, not married!
I think I’ve just heard references to it before, from people who may have been on either end of the experience!
Mike
August 9, 2012 at 4:41 am #766185
DBPMemberPeople get married while the passion is hot, but when the marriage actually counts the most is well after the passion cools. It’s when you’re in trouble and you need a partner to see you through it.
Unfortunately, lots of marriages end at the first sign of trouble. I guess people aren’t paying serious attention to the vows anymore.
Preacher says: “for better or worse” — they hear “for as long as I’m having fun.”
Preacher says: “till death do us part” — they hear “till something better comes along.”
People who don’t take the vows seriously might just as well not get married. They end up alone anyway.
August 9, 2012 at 5:20 am #766186
WalkerParticipantonce again.
August 9, 2012 at 3:14 pm #766187
JoBParticipantAugust 9, 2012 at 3:57 pm #766188
datamuseParticipantYou know, DBP, I’ve never understood the line of thinking that if a marriage doesn’t work out, it means the parties involved must not have taken their vows seriously.
August 9, 2012 at 4:15 pm #766189
EdSaneParticipantTo the OP. Not Much. Only in the last two centuries have we married over love rather then financial gain. Happiness wasn’t much of a factor (mistresses and those who were paid for their company were common place). I’m glad my generation has done away with the shame and guilt regarding what goes on in the bedroom. Marriage is fine for some. I personally don’t think it’s the ‘ideal’ goal for everyone. Why get hung up on it.
August 9, 2012 at 6:12 pm #766190
JanSParticipantEdSane…I quite agree…it’s not for everyone. And…my theory….even if you marry, don’t live with them. Live next door, have a place that you can go to by yourself. It will be much happier that way.
August 9, 2012 at 6:15 pm #766191
JoBParticipantJanS..
if we lived next door..
who would his mother stay with when she visits?
just asking.
I know who my family would stay with
and i suspect she would make the same choice for the same reasons ;->
August 9, 2012 at 6:29 pm #766192
JiggersMemberIt’s mind boggling how many woman today pays their man’s bills. Don’t tell me because the economy is in bad shape. I’d be embarrassed as hell.
August 9, 2012 at 7:51 pm #766193
kootchmanMemberCause the night out with the gals after the divorce papers are signed is the hottest party you will have post college? Something to look forward to as you store up the years of resentment? Maybe?
August 9, 2012 at 9:44 pm #766194
JanSParticipantJoB…why, him, of course :D
August 10, 2012 at 5:36 am #766195
SonomaParticipantI like your comment, JanS! To quote Katherine Hepburn, “Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.”
August 10, 2012 at 1:46 pm #766196
anonymeParticipantduplicate – the keyboard marching cat sent post before completion.
August 10, 2012 at 1:46 pm #766197
anonymeParticipantI agree with Jan & Sonoma about the “next door” arrangement. Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera had such an agreement – complete with a ‘no visitors’ sign, from what I understand.
August 10, 2012 at 2:46 pm #766198
56bricksParticipantThere’s gotta be something in it for them. My ex recently completed her 10th “I do”. At least she’s a good housekeeper. She usually keeps ’em.
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