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August 18, 2009 at 10:13 pm #591959
RainyDay1235MemberI’m due in about 3 weeks or so. I’ll be home for 5 months and was hoping to find another first-time Mom who also lives in WS. Someone to meet up with for coffee, walks, the occasional lunch – basically a reason to get out of the house once a week! :)
August 18, 2009 at 11:49 pm #675015
WSMomParticipantHave you considered signing up to be in a PEPS group? Wonderful way to meet other new moms and make longterm friendships. Also, I’d be up for a walk and an opportunity to hold a newborn :), although my kids are no longer little babies, email me at
tamvan at msn.com
August 18, 2009 at 11:52 pm #675016August 19, 2009 at 12:37 am #675017
LoveSunshineMemberCome join our play group: http://moms.meetup.com/1926/
Lots of first-time West Seattle moms!
August 19, 2009 at 12:41 am #675018
hollyplaceParticipantBe sure to sign up for West Seattle Moms of Babes. It is free to join and has a ton of members. http://moms.meetup.com/1926/
A great way to meet other moms that are expecting or that have just had babies is to ask the organizer to set up a meetup that you are willing to host for just that age range of babies. When my daughter was first born we would often all meet at Coffee to a Tea and it gave us all a chance to get to know each other before they were on the move.
August 19, 2009 at 4:12 pm #675019
RainyDay1235MemberYes, but for now at least I really feel I just want a one-one-one “buddy”. I might look to join stroller strides later on though….thanks!
August 19, 2009 at 4:24 pm #675020
IrukandjiParticipantPerhaps a listing in the ‘Jobs Offered’ section will bring you a select group of Mom-to-be candidates for this position?
August 19, 2009 at 4:25 pm #675021
herongrrrlParticipantHey RD, if you don’t mind that technically I’m not a first-timer, I’d be happy to meet you to get out of the house from time to time. You are wise to realize how important that will be!! My other “little” one is ten now and will be in school all day starting about the time you are due.
BTW, I haven’t forgotten about the diaper wraps…I’ve got two set aside now and should have 2-3 more by the time you’re needing them. Since PMs aren’t functional here right now, what’s the best way to get them to you?
August 19, 2009 at 6:13 pm #675022
RainyDay1235MemberIrukandji – I don’t think that was necessary. I’m just not the type to join a big group is all. I was looking for something much more low-key and less structured.
Thank you herongrrrl – too bad PM’s aren’t working right now. Go ahead and email me at my other email (kirzimmerwan @ gmail.com ) …thank you!
August 20, 2009 at 3:51 am #675023
ellenaterMemberI am not a huge group person, either. I would encourage you to check out C&P coffee. There IS a baby group that meets there but really it’s just a nice community place to go. You will definitely meet other moms if you want, but there is a also a diverse crowd. Very baby friendly. A nice place to go for some social time. :) Congrats. I’d meet up but my “baby” is almost ten! Oh dear.
August 20, 2009 at 6:18 am #675024
addParticipantI didn’t think I was a group person either when it came to parenthood until I joined a PEPS group – first one 15 years ago (oh dear indeed) and second one 3 years after that. The cool thing is that PEPS offers a softly-structured approach to dealing with all those new parent issues that you don’t even know you care about or need to deal with until you are a new parent. And usually, there are one, two or three people in the group that you really click with and then they become your “buddy system”. The structured part of PEPS (weekly meetings with a volunteer facilitator) is only for 3 months – and frankly that is the most cruical time for support – from there it is really decided by the individuals in the group about the best way to proceed. Some stay on and self-manage as a group and others finish the formal part and the “buddy system” falls into place. I’ll just end by saying that I am a huge supporter of PEPS and some of my best friends to this day came from my experiences with my PEPS groups. It might be worth a try?
August 20, 2009 at 12:25 pm #675025
hollyplaceParticipantCongrats btw! Although I loved the moms group, which isn’t as structured as you might think, but can have large turnouts – so maybe it isn’t for you. I do know lots of moms who loved PEPs, I didn’t try it myself since it cost money. If you don’t have any luck finding someone on the WS Blog you might put up a little sign on the bulletin board at C&P, Coffee to a Tea, Starbucks or outside Georgia Blu and you will be sure to find a good match. Good Luck!
August 20, 2009 at 6:48 pm #675026
IrukandjiParticipantRD: Joining a group certainly doesn’t mean all-group-all-the-time. Many moms groups have an online board or forum that you might enjoy for some time before asking just one or two moms to meet up for coffee or play. It’s a nice way to connect without being overwhelmed by group activity, and is a great resource to go to.
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I found I met spectacular parents while stuck in line at a grocery store, sitting by the train table at B&N or CuriousKidstuff, or while reading the Stranger at Coffee to a Tea. Good opportunities to get out, do some people watching, and chat with someone if you like them and their kid(s).
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While out doing baby-stuff, you will meet others even if you don’t do group activities.
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Best wishes to you.
August 20, 2009 at 7:19 pm #675027
sam-cParticipantI am not a group person either but I loved PEPS.
I’m not a talker, so it was nice being in a group where I could listen to a lot of different people with a variety of perspectives and approaches. before being a mom, I knew some common issues, (sleep obviously) but PEPS organized discussion topics and brought up issues I wouldn’t have thought of and it was so useful. then of course, you sometimes connect with a person or two in your PEPS group and keep in touch.
I have a few friends who are still in touch with friends they made in PEPS several years (6+) ago.
if you really are against groups, you could also meet other moms at classes, such as.
http://www.birthandbeyond.com/firstweeks.html
I know some people who really liked these classes.
good luck and congrats!
August 20, 2009 at 8:32 pm #675028
addParticipantPS – PEPS does have a fee but there are “scholarship” opportunities as well.
August 20, 2009 at 8:39 pm #675029
WSBKeymasterHey RainyDay – good luck with the impending arrival!
As overwhelming as it will seem, it’s actually the easy part. Enjoy every single moment. Even the diapers. I always laugh that while there are books and whatnot for every possible instant of the first couple years, nobody ever wrote “What To Expect When Your Kid’s Entering Middle School” (etc.) and THAT’s when you find yourself desperate for advice :)
Maybe you’ll consider sharing a baby photo here once she/he arrives :)
August 20, 2009 at 11:15 pm #675030
RainyDay1235MemberWill do! :)
I think groups are great – and I have taken several “classes”. But I have lots of friends and friends with kids that I will be spending plenty of time with – it’s just the “not working” for a while I know I’ll want a new (mellow) outlet during some days – and thought another first time Mom would be a good match. I’m sure it’ll happen naturally – there is a winter storm baby boom going on soon right? ;^)
August 21, 2009 at 2:56 am #675031
EmmyJaneParticipantCongrats RainyDay! Is it a boy or a girl?
August 21, 2009 at 5:15 pm #675032
RainyDay1235MemberA surprise! :)
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