my Christmas wish…

[WSMom]

I wish that everyone would be nice to JoB. I like reading Jo’s point of view. I appreciate that her contributions make this forum interesting and thought provoking. It hurts me to read mean spirited comments made toward her. I love being part of this forum, but the snipping of a few are making it much less pleasurable for me. I wish we were intentionally kinder to one another, especially JoB.

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[JanS]

intentions…yes..they speak volumes, don’t they? I just realized that I haven’t seen you post in a while…it does get off-putting, doesn’t it? Nice to see you on here again…

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[JoB]

Gosh WSMom..

thanks for the Christmas wish..you made me blush.

Everyone should know that i don’t take this stuff personally.

I only get upset when childish behavior directed at me spills over onto others and ruins their dream.. or their event.. or their day.

that this is upsetting other people upsets me more than anything mean anyone could say to me.

i miss your posts… especially right now as we talk about what we can do to make a difference.. especially during the holidays… but year round as well…

there are some great projects hatching and a christmas get together upstairs in a brewery tasting room.. kid’s welcome..and I know you make tasty treats…

any chance you can join us?

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[Kayleigh2]

This last round was particularly nasty and I thought about de-listing myself again.

Here’s hoping that someday I have the maturity and centeredness to not take things personally that are, in fact, pretty darn personal.

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[JenV]

WSMom, it’s good to see you back here. Hopefully we’ll see you at Big Al’s?

As far as your Xmas wish, some people are just nasty – and even Santa can’t help with that.

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[GenHillOne]

Thanks for the post, WSMom, I agree. And part of the season (whichever holiday one celebrates) to me is letting go. We all hear about tired old issues being dredged up at family gatherings, making everyone uncomfortable, and what does it accomplish? Of course, this should ideally be year-round, but it seems highlighted this time of year – and I for one, am tired of people pissing in my eggnogg.

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[JoB]

I am sure they think i have done something to them to cause all this nastiness.

if i did, it wasn’t intentional. but that doens’t really matter.. does it. Some people take it very personally when you refute their ideas.

and then there’s that communication thing:)

i saw an instance today in another thread where someone wrote one thing and then defended the opposite.. not realizing what she had written.

i think that is the largest flaw in internet communication.. that our words are all anyone sees.

sometimes even if we are careful with our words.. other people read them with their own expectations and our message is lost… as any message i write is lost on those who are righteously defending their position. They read what they believe is my intention.. not what i wrote.

i don’t think it’s possible to ever have perfect communication.. even written communication which some people seem to think is superior.

I love the depth of written communication.. the opportunity to think through what you want to say and ask yourself how you can write that so that the people you are writing to will understand.

In letters it’s easy.. you know your audience. not so easy with anything that is read by strangers.

That is one reason i love the get-togethers… not only does it put faces to sign on names.. it puts personalities to them as well and people are given the opportunity to learn something about the intention behind our words. I would hope that my hugs speak volumes about who i am… even when you don’t agree with what i think.

I know getting to know many of you has changed the way i view your posts…

in a perfect world.. we would all read every post with the assumption that the poster had good intentions.

if this were a perfect world we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

we are all very very human.

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[Zenguy]

Miscommunication is a lot of it Jo.

I have taught a communication class for many years and most studies claim 38% of communication comes from tone of voice, 55% comes from body language/facial expression and only 7% from words.

So maybe we can cut each other some slack and not read things into what each other writes and not assume to know what others think or believe.

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[andrea]

amen.

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[JoB]

what a nice hug.. thanks.

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[Anonymous]

“So maybe we can cut each other some slack and not read things into what each other writes and not assume to know what others think or believe.” – Zenguy

I agree with that comment, absolutely. Misunderstanding/miscommunication abounds here on on this forum, unfortunately.

Btw, Zenguy, I owe you an apology for misreading one of your posts yesterday, I’m sorry I took it so personally.

Also, JoB, I apologize for any misunderstanding there has been between the 2 of us. I believe it is entirely possible that is has been just that – miscommunication. I’m willing to try harder to NOT read implications into posts and to reevaluate what I put out there as well.

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[JoB]

My goodness, it must be christmas.

thank you NewResident.

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