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June 6, 2009 at 1:33 am #591143
Lucile 2MemberDown in the Bay Area, where I used to live (and still hold near and dear to my heart), we used to have a saying “getting Marined”. Example: “I was walking through the door with my hands full of groceries and some guy in a suit and on a Blackberry totally let the door slam in my face instead of holding it open for me. I dropped my groceries and he looked back at me and then just kept walking. I just got Marined.” It was a not-so-nice reference to those who live in Marin county and count themselves as very important individuals who cannot be bothered with common decency. (I get it, tons of my friends live in Marin, and you can’t judge someone by where they live, but come on, it’s funny!)
That said, are there any similar statements to be made in the greater Seattle area, possibly about neighborhood or suburbs?
June 6, 2009 at 1:49 am #669015
miwsParticipantHmmmmmm…..don’t recall any local, region wide, name for that type of (mis)behavior.
What *I’ve* called it, or at least thought to myself, can’t be printed in polite company!
But, I suppose, our comparison would be “Bellevue”-d. ;-)
Mike
June 6, 2009 at 1:56 am #669016
Lucile 2MemberI know, Mike. I thought so too, but wanted to throw that out there. Maybe Seattle does have a niceness problem!
June 6, 2009 at 1:56 am #669017
ErikParticipantThere is the twisted tune by the KZOK djs ‘Highway to Bellevue.’
June 6, 2009 at 5:39 am #669018
celeste17ParticipantThe words I use can’t be repeated. I would use the word idot! but I like the word Bellevued.
June 6, 2009 at 6:35 am #669019
CaitParticipantI’ve heard something about the “Seattle Freeze” which is in reference the general unfriendliness, I believe. Not as in someone refusing to give you the time, but as in people like to walk down the street in their own little world not acknowledging others. But that’s about it…
June 6, 2009 at 3:38 pm #669020
KatherineLParticipantBack when I was working at the Public Safety Building, a co-worker and I approached the doors just behind a strange man. He let the door slam in our faces. She looked hurt and angry. I said scornfully, “Tourist!” She laughed and brightened up.
June 6, 2009 at 3:57 pm #669021
PDieterParticipantI get beemered on the road all the time…does that count?
June 6, 2009 at 6:55 pm #669022
JoBParticipantdisrespectful
June 6, 2009 at 7:16 pm #669023
Lucile 2MemberI think JoB takes the cake on this one!
June 7, 2009 at 4:52 pm #669024
beachdrivegirlParticipantI have never quite seen anything like what you are descirbing in West Seattle or Seattle in general? Where are you going that this is happening to you?
June 7, 2009 at 4:54 pm #669025
beachdrivegirlParticipantAnd yes Cait, i have heard of the Seattle Freeze too. As some of my coworkers have explained to me after moving here it also includes the behavior that people grab someone elses cell phone number but never calls and never makes an attempt to make them feel welcome to the community….
June 7, 2009 at 6:34 pm #669026
YardvarkMemberAs a transplant, I’m not too inclined to insult my hosts.
That said, I’ve honestly always found died-in-the-wool Seattle folk to be sadly self righteous and insecure.
There’s a little bit of that whenever you go in the world. The old been-here vs. came-here divide. But it is very much true here in Seattle area, and much more so than any other place I’ve ever lived in the world.
I imagine it’s just a result of a community that experienced a boom, but it still smarts everytime some Seattle resident lets fly with moral authority. Just no need for it, however it developed.
That said, I’ve found plenty of Seattlites who have happily tamed that beast. Good friends, the whole lot. I just hope this continues to happen, as Seattle settles into its post-Microsoft years.
June 7, 2009 at 7:36 pm #669027
JoBParticipantYardvark…
i gather you have never lived in Minnesota…
I have been here less than 2 years and have developed a fairly extensive diverse network of friends… something i was pretty much unable to do in 3+ years in St Paul… and i haven’t worked so hard at it here:)
I can’t tell you how delighted i was to get back to the warmth and honesty of the Pacific Northwest.
June 7, 2009 at 7:56 pm #669028
YardvarkMemberBeing better than Minnesota doesn’t exactly qualify ya for sainthood, JoB.
Don’t doubt the Freeze.
Sure, sure.
Plenty of good folks, warmth, and honesty to go around here the NW, JoB. I’ve definitely enjoyed my own re-settlement.
But there’s also plenty of resentment towards the immigrants from California and the East Coast.
I haven’t lived in MN at all. If the “been here/come here” is worse there, I don’t think I’ll ever have a need to do so.
I think mostly I was just so surprised that there was any of that drunken-ownership sentiment here in such a young, accepting city.
It just sometimes makes my otherwise kind and friendly associates sound so petty, scared, and slighted.
The Freeze is strong here is sunny Seattle. We’d all be much better without it.
June 8, 2009 at 12:07 am #669029
JoBParticipantYardvark…
i am not so sure it is so much a freeze as nordic reticence combined with a moodiness inspired by SAD (seasonal affective disorder.. not enough sun) and active lifestyles.
Resentment against Californians or those from the East Coast seems to stem more from the demands of transplants who want Seattle to be more like the places they came from… and less like.. well.. Seattle.
At least the natives i’ve met don’t expect you to be like them.. they just expect you not to bitch about them:)
that’s a big step up from Minnesota. Great place to visit.. but i think it’s a lot more fun to live there if you were born there and belong:)
I think the freeze would thaw faster if we didn’t perpetuate it.
June 8, 2009 at 5:22 am #669030
beachdrivegirlParticipantI see the freeze HERE every day. People try to protect what they believe to be their own here every day and freeze others out.
June 8, 2009 at 4:14 pm #669031
JoBParticipantJune 8, 2009 at 6:47 pm #669032
BookGalParticipantIn my opinion, people need to be a bit less self-absorbed, more aware of their surroundings, and be more open to new experiences.
People isolate themselves voluntarily via texting, twittering, iPods, etc. You are not approachable, personable or friendly with earbuds/earphone shoved in your ears, nor while texting constantly.
Every face-to-face encounter or conversation with a stranger will not become a meaningful relationship. Most people have many many acquaintances, and few true friends.
You reap what you sow… Approaching Life with a negative or fatalistic attitude will not bring you much of a positive outcome.
When you see a person with a scowl – do you think that they are approachable or friendly? Do you ever wonder if that is how you present yourself to the world? Unhappy. Disgruntled. Bitchy. Closed-minded. Unfriendly. Fake smiles are obvious to everyone except those who wear them.
Be a real friend.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Don’t take things so personally if someone does not want to let their guard down as easily as you.
Friendships/relationships are not instantaneous. They take time and they need to be nurtured. Most of the time, they are transient and short-lived. Enjoy them for what they are.
Life goes on…
June 8, 2009 at 6:49 pm #669033
JoBParticipant:)
June 8, 2009 at 7:10 pm #669034
austinMemberYesterday I was taking the bus over to ballard.. I was sort of dazey from the previous late night and basically spacing out on the long ride on the 22/15. I made a comment to my bus buddy (that being, the person sharing my seat who was otherwise a perfect stranger) about something meaningless and got a wink, smile and a sharp jab in the ribs. An unexpected reaction when I expect people are normally standoffish and it totally changed my day, a pleasantness that shook out the cobwebs and reset my perspective entirely. With a renewed sense of optimism I owned the day, took care of all outstanding matters of business and completed a small construction project ahead of schedule. So, a small rave to friendliness from strangers, particularly the well timed and sincere sort.
June 9, 2009 at 3:43 am #669035
JoBParticipantaustin…
even hubby.. who is not a very social person… he is shy… meets people on the bus who make a point to come say hello when they see him…
this in spite of the fact that he reads or listens to music on the bus…
I think it is because he looks up and gives people his attention when he is spoken to… he even smiles once in a while:)
and yes.. it does make a difference when people connect…
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