What’s In It For A Guy To Get Married?

[Anonymous]

When I first started posting on here, I was accused of being 3 different people (“Hey, NewRes, how about a cinnamon latte?”).

That was a little annoying. Actually, though, I don’t recall that it was the real “regulars” that were making those accusations, just random posters who, I’ve noticed since, don’t actually get on here that often.

But, as someone who went through that, it would be nice to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Just because someone doesn’t agree with you, doesn’t mean they aren’t a real person trying to express their real opinions.

For what it’s worth, jiggers, I know you’re not a troll (you’ve been a member on this forum longer than I have, I think). I would also appreciate you sticking around.

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[charlabob]

I don’t know the stats, but the heading really should be “What’s in it for anyone to get married?”

All the $ stuff *can* and does increasingly apply to women as well as men; here’s a surprise; a growing number of (yeah, elite effete, bierkenstock-wearing, wine guzzling, upper-middle-class) households have women earning equal or higher incomes than men. And many women demand prenups to protect their assets from their predatory male partners. Let’s see — there’s Cindy McCain and Theresa Heinz Kerry, for example :-)

Sometimes you need to get married to get benefits — at many companies in California opposite sex domestic partners can’t get insurance coverage because they can get married. Only same sex couples are covered — anything to save a buck. Our friends, the insurance companies, are now doing the same thing in Massachusetts for same sex couples. Is that a shotgun marriage?

When we moved to Seattle from the bay area, the company that relocated us (for my job) didn’t care if we were married — they paid for everything for both of us, including the temporary housing, car transit, etc.. Some companies didn’t do that — and would only have purchased my half of a house we owned together, and for cars that I owned. That would have been a $20K reason to get married.

20 years ago, I moved with my previous husband, and that company would NOT have paid relocation if I had been the employee….they only paid for heads of households and heads had to be male. I cannot explain this — I can only report it. :-)

I think the real reason to get married is if you love each other and if it matters a whole lot, for whatever reason, to one of you.

If you’re sitting around worrying strictly about the balance sheet and the bottom line, you’ll want to run far away, as will anyone thinking of marrying you. Perhaps you could form an LLC with Sex (LLCWS).

the c and the b are married because the c really really wanted to get married, for reasons she couldn’t explain even to this day. and the b loved the c and thus they are married. the c wouldn’t have left the b if he had NOT wanted to get married. he just knew it mattered and so we did it. of course, we’ve been together since our third date, 11-1/2 years ago and we’d still be together no matter what.

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[CMP]

I think if you have to ask, it’s probably not for you…at least not right now. Meet the right person and you probably wouldn’t be questioning marriage on a blog.

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