Remembering Darrellee Pavey, 1951-2023

Family and friends are remembering Darrellee Pavey, and sharing this remembrance with her community:

Darrellee Pavey of West Seattle passed away on December 26 at Swedish First Hill after a nine-year battle with lung cancer.

She was born on January 6, 1951, to Fred and Helen Ihrig, in Seattle. She was raised by her mother, spending time in Oklahoma as her stepfather was stationed in Ft. Sill, then later lived in South Park, now a portion of Tukwila. Later she moved with her mother to West Seattle, where she attended Madison Middle School and West Seattle High School. It was in this timeframe she met her future husband, Pat Pavey.

Darrellee was married on October 29, 1971 and started homemaking with her husband and first son, Sean David, in the South Admiral area until a new home was built in the Fauntleroy Springs area. Having moved only 200 feet from Fairmount Park Elementary School, she took up her passion to work with children and was employed by the school to watch over children during their breakfast and lunch breaks. She also took up being a mother to her second son, Travis Christian.

It was the spring of 2015 that she was rushed to Swedish First Hill hospital only to find out she had small cell lung cancer and started the long path to tratment, including three rounds of chemotherapy as well as radiation treatments. Even with this devastating diagnosis, Darrellee continued on with her loves. One of those loves was the raising of her Golden Retrievers, raising four of them. A second love was her home and garden, where she spent most of her free time.

With her husband’s retirement from the Seattle Fire Department, and her sons long moved from the family home, Darrellee made an effort to maintain a carefree life even with her ongoing treatments for her cancer, but in the end the cancer won out. The year 2023 became her toughest challenge, and with visits to the hospital lasting longer it became obvious she was losing the battle. Nevertheless she maintained her poise and did not let the inevitable sway her. She had promised her brother that she would make one more Christmas and that she did. She also made her fifty-second marriage anniversary, celebrating while in Swedish. Her passing was not a surprise but it still left her family in heartbreak. She is survived by her brother Nick Barrie, sons Sean David and Travis Christian, and her husband, Patrick.

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7 Replies to "Remembering Darrellee Pavey, 1951-2023"

  • Allison February 22, 2024 (11:43 am)

    What a wonderful life she had; thank you for sharing.  I’m so sorry for your loss.  Cancer is such an ugly disease.

  • Just wondering February 22, 2024 (2:30 pm)

    I did not know her but when I see a Golden Retriever I will remember her!

  • February 22, 2024 (4:48 pm)

    I went to junior high and high school with Darrellee. I remember being so mad in 8th grade when I  saw her walking home after school with my crush, Don Mock. I stayed angry for years! However, fast forward about 30 years, and  I ended up  having her son Travis in my art class at Denny Middle School. One day the kids asked me if I liked boys in junior high, and I said, “Yes, my hearthrob was Don Mock.” I proceeded to tell the kids how my heart was broken when I saw him walking a  classmate named Darrellee Ihrig home from school.  A student in my class , Travis, started waving his hand wildly. I called on him an he said ,”That’s my mom!” I forgave her, as that Christmas she sent Travis to school with a wonderful tray of homemade Chocolate truffles for me.  I immediately forgave her; I still have the recipe she sent with that tray…I will make them next Christmas as a tribute to her. RIP Darrellee…glad we ended on good terms!

  • AmyC February 22, 2024 (8:16 pm)

    So incredibly sorry for your loss. It sounds like a very courageous battle. I will add her name to the skirt I wear every year for the Lung Force walk (a fundraiser for the American Lung Assn focusing on womens lung health.) I walk and fundraise each year in honor of my Mom, who is one of the lucky ones having survived lung cancer twice. Love and light to those left behind. 🩵

  • Patrick S Pavey February 23, 2024 (1:56 pm)

    I would like to thank these readers for their kind comments. Darrellee was my only love for 52 years. Yes, she had a tough nine years, battling lung cancer but she bore this illness with great strength. I think about her every night when I go to bed and try to sleep. And yes, it is an ugly disease. 

    • Edith Adams March 6, 2024 (6:51 am)

      Darrellee told me how good you were to her in the hospital. She talked about you sleeping in the chair in her room and not leaving her. That meant a lot to her. In case she did not tell you, I want you to know she was so pleased and touched by your care and concern. She will always be near. Best wishes to you for peace. Edi

  • Edith Adams March 6, 2024 (6:39 am)

    Darrellee and I met about 1980. Our sons were friends. I had a great respect for her determination to always give her best to any project she would undertake. We volunteered at Fauntleroy School together. She was smart, determined, loyal, and loved her husband deeply. I treasured her friendship through the years. When I broke my foot, she cared for my sons and sent meals as I recovered.  Even though she was sick, she sent a Christmas card which I plan to frame and hang. I still think about calling her. I miss her laugh and her “projects report” of upcoming gardening plans. Blessings to her husband. She was so glad he was there when she had to be in the hospital. Thank you for being my friend Darrellee. My prayers for you and yours always. 

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