Be Aware – “Doglover”/Awful excuse for a human being

[Simone86]

This man was turning into the parking lot at the West Seattle Nursery as I was leaving and apparently thought I was slightly over the middle line or something? (I don’t think I was, but that seemed like the perceived slight).

It was very unclear if he was planning to let me leave first so he could have all the space to enter or was going to enter (he of course coming from the street had the right of way), but I could see him making faces in the turning lane, seemed upset out of the corner of my eye, as we both waited for passing cars to leave a clearance to turn in and out of the parking lot. The faces started as cars drove by with no opening to turn, maybe he was just pissed I wasn’t just dangerously jutting out into oncoming traffic rapidly, so that he could enter? He then pretty quickly drove in at the first opportunity, (I’m glad I didn’t think he was letting out in or it would have been a crash).

At which point he stops next to me in the driveway instead of continuing into the parking lot. My windows are all down because it’s HOT, my newborn is in the car (this is our first outing postpartum) and our AC isn’t yet flowing enough. This man is SCREAMING at me. Saying who knows what, definitely full of profanities as he can see AND hear my newborn daughter behind the drivers seat crying – a small baby crying as he feels emboldened to scream at me. Again over what?? There clearly was room for him to turn in because he’s doing that as he screams at me.

Against all good judgement I know, I decided turn around to go back. To ask him in what world he thinks it’s ok to scream at a mom as her baby cries over that no less? Stupid, I know. After getting out with daughter in the car seat and putting the carseat in the stroller I saw the man right next to the parking lot looking at plants. I approached him to try to speak about what just happened, to which he immediately gets in my face about a centimeter or less nose nose while wagging his finger right by my eye screaming that he doesn’t care and saying who knows what screaming in my face. I continue to tell him to get out of my face, after way too long he finally does. I then make clear I am a new mom, out for the first time it is insane and incredibly shitty to speak to someone like they did/are, ever, over what again?! And to do it while you can see a child in the backseat and it’s a baby crying?! How shitty. A man, can’t even have a child, has no idea what it’s like, treating a new mom like that? To which he keeps screaming at me he doesn’t care along with profanities.

A younger man he is clearly with, 30s or so, who I hadn’t seen in the car, who confirmed when I asked if he’s the man’s son, but otherwise had said nothing, then starts to go on about how they waited for me for “so long” to turn. (Patently untrue, but also would that make it all ok…??). And he might have seemed classy just with a crazy dad, they both seemed well dressed, not seemingly on meth or anything else that might explain their behavior, just them being them. Then immediately after I stated I’m a new mom, the son, without pause, says to me that I’m “just a fat bitch.”

The comment didn’t bother me but the shittiness of people, that they would say that to attempt to insult, just the general shitty complete lack of humanity and entitlement of men, who could never handle anything women go through, to treat a woman with her newborn that way, does bother me, to a large degree.

After that the older man tried to come towards me again. I moved the stroller an inch forward to block him, the wheel hit up against his toe and the son starts shouting I assaulted him. The son begins recording me with his phone – to which I point out that’s not legal w/o consent in Washington, to stop. He goes on about how he’s going to get my daughter taken away from me that I used the stroller like that while claim to care about my daughter on and on (my daughter is of course fine, as is the man’s toe. He was not nor does he seem harmed and is busy wandering still with his very scraggly small dog as he is shouting the same insults at me as before, not hurt or in pain. The son continued to claim he can record because it’s a public place (not the law) and claiming I assaulted his dad.

A Good Samaritan woman tried to cut in saying to them, “just leave her alone she’s with her child.” To which the son said she assaulted him. To which I said only after you called me a fat bitch. Obviously not helping anything. The woman is now seemingly just confused probably by the trashiness of this all and encourages us to just separate. I do walk away at that point. Stood in the parking lot for a moment just fuming. Then the old man comes out through the front building, one car away from mine. I put the carseat in the car. Then get in the car myself. I see his son then come out and they sit in the car for a moment. I’m debating if it’s safer to just leave or wait for them to leave first. I decide to just leave.

I’m upset after this all of course. First day out postpartum with our second child and that happens. After I got home and we discussed it, my husband stopped in after to see if they could give any information about the man, name etc. They did not but said the man came in before leaving to complain I was “blocking him in in the parking lot.” Again, just categorically untrue.

Stay away from this man if you see him. Or please kick him in the shin in a way that actually hurts on my behalf.

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[anonyme]

First of all, it’s unclear to me after reading this biblical diatribe who was actually at fault. Second, if this guy was really behaving in such an unhinged way, why on earth would you confront him with a newborn baby in tow? It sounds like you escalated the situation at several points, placing both yourself and your child at risk. I’m also not sure the dude with the “scraggly dog” is the one with entitlement issues; the choice of giving birth does not automatically make you eligible for special status, either on the road or out in public. Maybe you need to stay home and recover a bit longer and take care of your physical and mental health before going out and dragging an infant into a brawl.

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[Bottom Feeder]

I think it’s something in the water…

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Whatever happened between you and the other driver, means glances, unkind words, it does not give you the right to put your baby at risk. You intentionally put your child in danger to prove a point? Is there another parent in your family? If so, I bet they aren’t very happy with how you chose to behave.

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[Seriously?]

🐂💩

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