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March 7, 2011 at 5:34 pm #598214
lyw101MemberThe Icebox
It stings to the thought of touch. Is owned by or better yet possessed by one-time now divorced/dissolution married women over the age of 35 living in west Seattle. Each work day they take their children to school, and then drive to have coffee and sit alone. Alone they sit on weekends too, scan their cell phones looking to see a call that does not come and or text other lonely disillusioned friends and family. They have lots of friends, the kids, and tell you with their eyes and lips that they have no free time for such frivolity. They refuse to accept conversation or the thought associated with a chance meeting, a random lunch date or even a cocktail after work. So wounded are they that the thought of a man or a single father even being interested in them is for whatever reason hurtful and demeaning. Who is that man to think or impose that he is remotely at her level of being, or success? This is Seattle and we have our standards. You must meet those levels of excellence and achievement or you are not worth a conversation, let alone a relationship. It is a sad state of affairs or the lack of them we have in this supposedly friendly town of West Seattle. What we have is a rain soaked and love deprived set of individuals with no hope of redemption unless they choose to take a step and connect.
March 7, 2011 at 5:43 pm #719539
JoBParticipantlyw101..
This is an unusual monday morning. You are the second poster this morning to cause me to stop and ponder… now where did this come from?… what does it mean?… who does this relate to?
I can only say that all ice boxes contemplated from the outside miss the rich mystery of the contents… and that we all desire more that which we can not have while passing that which we can without so much as a second look.
March 7, 2011 at 5:45 pm #719540
theeParticipantCan someone make me a sammich?
March 7, 2011 at 5:47 pm #719541
JoBParticipantMarch 7, 2011 at 5:56 pm #719542
GenHillOneParticipantBitter much? At least you changed the title of your thread, but even with out the reference to female anatomy, I’d say that what you’re experiencing is a common reaction to douchebaggery.
March 7, 2011 at 6:03 pm #719543
JoBParticipantGenHillOne…
LOL…so this once had a more illuminating title ?
and here i was thinking that this was pretty provocative for a first post…
all in the eye of the beholder i guess ;->
March 7, 2011 at 6:04 pm #719544
JanSParticipantsounds like someone had a lousy weekend. Maybe the ice box is filled to the brim with goodies, but sometimes one simply wants something that just isn’t there.
March 7, 2011 at 6:20 pm #719545
WSBKeymasterThis has been flagged (as was the earlier version).
On surface, I think it also violates our rules re: sexism – generalizing about people based on gender.
But it’s not a clear attack. More a wistful musing. Still … a sexist wistful musing is as sexist as sexist invective.
Thoughts, before I just arbitrarily hit “delete” without consultation, as we do in more obvious cases?
March 7, 2011 at 6:20 pm #719546
herongrrrlParticipantWhenever I hear anyone complaining that no one (of whatever gender) will worship them the way they feel is appropriate, I think of this:
March 7, 2011 at 6:24 pm #719547
JoBParticipantWSB…
i thought it had more to say about the poster than about the possible object of his unrequited interest.
but.. as always.. it’s your call.
March 7, 2011 at 6:37 pm #719548
MargLMemberHrm – I think this would be better posted as an ad or commentary in “The Stranger”…
And… here’s an example of friendly West Seattle
https://westseattleblog.com/forum/topic/anyone-want-to-go-bowling Go Bowling! :-)
March 7, 2011 at 6:55 pm #719549
KenParticipantUnrequited drive by?
Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
— H. L. Mencken
March 7, 2011 at 7:08 pm #719550
KenParticipantLove is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.
— Matt Groening (1954 – ), “Life in Hell”
March 7, 2011 at 7:39 pm #719551
DPMemberStill … a sexist wistful musing is as sexist as sexist invective
Please don’t delete this post, Tracy. It will have a chilling effect and diminish the value of the Blog for everyone.
March 7, 2011 at 7:49 pm #719552
datamuseParticipantI’m fascinated how lyw101 knows so much about the internal lives of women that (presumably) he has not even managed to hold a conversation with. How does he do it? If I were that psychic I’d never have a confused student again.
(Protip: just because a woman is out in public alone does not mean she owes you a conversation, a smile, a greeting, or even the time of day. Maybe she just wants to drink her damn coffee in peace.)
March 7, 2011 at 8:05 pm #719553
Genesee HillParticipantI am certain the desribed situation is not unique to West Seattle.
March 7, 2011 at 8:22 pm #719554
JanSParticipantand the first thing I thought? Typical…looked at the contents of the ice box, didn’t want all that was offered there, wants something that doesn’t exist. Maybe he needs to order delivery ;-)
March 7, 2011 at 9:04 pm #719555
metrognomeParticipantseems the season for these types of musings (i.e. why am I single …) starts with the spate of holidays at the end of the year when one may feel like a fifth wheel at family dinners, work parties, etc. Valentine’s Day just accelerates the musing and the onset of spring doesn’t do much to damp the feelings.
There have been a number of articles with similar themes in papers around the country, altho the responsibility for one’s or a group’s singlehood varies with each writer. This HuffPo article includes links to some of the articles about single women in NY:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brienne-walsh/an-open-letter-to-the-wom_b_829378.html
my favorite quote:
“Our conversation eventually — and inevitably — led us to the topic of why she never married, and to illustrate the point, she told me a story. “When I was younger,” she said, “I was dating a man who told me: ‘You’re extraordinarily smart, and you’re extraordinarily beautiful. You need a man who is either so strong that he can stand up to you, or so weak that you can walk all over him. I’m just a normal man. I’m not the man for you.'”
[20 years later, they met again, and she asked him why he had married his wife. “She made good sandwiches,” he said.]”
March 7, 2011 at 9:42 pm #719556
datamuseParticipantI just saw that this morning, metrognome. I haven’t gotten all the way through it yet but, even though I’m married, I found myself nodding along with quite a lot of it.
It did make me sad, though, that the author seems to think that expecting nothing, or expecting a fairytale are the only options.
March 7, 2011 at 9:44 pm #719557
MargLMemberWe’re _assuming_ lyw101 is male! “lyw” could stand for something else and this is just social commentary on what they’ve seen happening at coffee shops, we just don’t know!
March 7, 2011 at 10:19 pm #719558
JoBParticipantdatamuse…
i watched a lame movie last night with one good line when it comes to what we should expect from out partners…
to paraphrase…
expect everything.. you won’t get it… but if you don’t expect it you won’t get anything.
March 7, 2011 at 10:42 pm #719559
flowerpetalMemberMy first thought was this is a well written post and that the poster is literately gifted. But it does feel sexist nonetheless and left me feeling yucchy. Seems irrelevant if the poster is male/female. But then again, “douchebaggery” offends me as sexist.
I believe it is delete-able TR.
March 7, 2011 at 10:53 pm #719560
GenHillOneParticipantI apologize, flowerpetal, it’s not my favorite either, but in some cases it feels appropriate. And in this case, I was referencing the original title of this thread that was completely vulgar and gave a lot of insight into the intent. And (imho) it was far more distasteful than douchebaggery. I know, two wrongs don’t make a right and all…but I wouldn’t call it gifted.
March 7, 2011 at 11:14 pm #719561
JustSarahParticipantAgreed with GHO – sorry, the poster is not “literately [sic] gifted” by most standards. I had to read the post several times to understand the writer’s point. It reads like a 13-year-old’s attempt at poetry following rejection by a crush.
I’m not necessarily offended by the content, but I am definitely offended by the “style” and grammar.
March 7, 2011 at 11:37 pm #719562
MargLMember“Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them.”
;-)
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