Wistful in West Seattle: Remembering a neighbor

PCG e-mailed this tribute, to share with you:

There was an elderly gentleman that lived on a street adjacent to our house (33rd SW near Andover) that we fondly refer to as Pussy Cat Lane because of all of the Tabbies that Titus (our dog) searches for with each morning walk.

He was an interesting man, who for the most part kept to himself. While I would often see him shuffling back and forth with his shopping bag, we rarely exchanged greetings with the exception of good morning, or good afternoon. I remember in exacting detail one day last summer, during an unusually hot spell, when he was walking in front of the house while the sprinkler system was on; there he stood soaking up the mist and all the goodness that a cool rain could bring on a hot summer’s day. In that brief moment I found myself admiring him for his love of life and all that it can bring.

His house is now dark. One of the tires is flat on his van. He died last week.

I, for one, will miss him and his ability to put one foot in front of the other, his love of life and his ability to get on. But it is that picture of an elderly man in a bucket hat standing in the spray of a sprinkler system that will never leave my mind. He meant something to someone, I was one of them. I am saddened for the loss. He made my world a better place, though some would deem him insignificant. He meant something to someone, I must admit I was one of those individuals, though he didn’t know it.

21 Replies to "Wistful in West Seattle: Remembering a neighbor"

  • Cait March 16, 2009 (10:33 pm)

    What you wrote here is beautiful. Anyone would be lucky to be remembered this way. I’m sure you’ll think of him whenever you see a sprinkler :)

  • GenHillOne March 16, 2009 (10:45 pm)

    Lovely thoughts.

  • Farmersfriend March 16, 2009 (10:50 pm)

    Thank you for sharing this. It will remind me to share with others before it is too late.

  • Mariah March 16, 2009 (10:53 pm)

    Thank you for sharing your enjoyment of another person. It is these kinds of things that make this community so special to me.

  • jeannie March 17, 2009 (2:10 am)

    What a beautiful tribute. And a reminder that every person, old and young, has a story to tell.

  • charlabob March 17, 2009 (5:25 am)

    This is so touching — and a reminder to pay attention to the NON-squeaky wheels in our lives. Reading it will make a difference in my day today. Thank you TR.

  • Kayleigh March 17, 2009 (5:31 am)

    Lovely and a sweet reminder that no one is insignificant. No one.
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    Thank you.

  • mel March 17, 2009 (7:15 am)

    You have a gift for seeing…feeling… and expressing. There is so much to see if we just take the time

    Thank you

  • Meghan March 17, 2009 (7:56 am)

    What a sweet thing to write about a neighbor. Everyone should be so lucky to touch someone else enough that they take the time to write something so wonderful about you. Do a nice thing for someone today…

  • Judy Pickens March 17, 2009 (8:48 am)

    Yes, lovely – so well written. What a shame that, like most of us, the writer did not find a way or the nerve to share a bit more than “good morning.” I, for one, hold back for lack of time or not wanting to intrude or not wanting the other person to change me in some way. Sure, I might be sorry if I do. But just think what I might gain! And what the community might gain!

  • Kathleen March 17, 2009 (10:16 am)

    Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful. This also brings to mind the need for neighbors to increase their awareness of who lives on their block. In emergencies it is often the elderly and alone who need the most assistance. And often, the most easily forgotten.
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    Thank you for sharing this TR. I know it’s got me thinking of ways I can reach out to my neighbors. I know I’m not alone.
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    Éirinn go Brách!

  • onceachef March 17, 2009 (10:23 am)

    A very nice tribute…my condolences to you and his family.

  • cjboffoli March 17, 2009 (10:39 am)

    I’m impressed that you can have such affection and reverence for someone who kept to himself. Imagine how much richer an experience it might have been for both of you if he had actually been engaging enough to let you into his life a bit more.

  • jsrekd March 17, 2009 (1:16 pm)

    thank you for the beautiful tribute. A reminder to get to know your WS neighbors, even those who are more “difficult.” We live in a neighborhood of elderly, original home owners and keep their extended family phone numbers handy, “just in case.”

  • JH March 17, 2009 (2:04 pm)

    Nice, but I’m also thinking…why didn’t you talk to him? What a shame actually.

  • KatieMcA March 17, 2009 (2:41 pm)

    Such a lovely thing to write. I’m sorry for all of our losses- it sounds like he would have been someone really wonderful to get to know.

  • pcg March 17, 2009 (2:42 pm)

    Actually I did talk to him. When he left the lights
    on in his car I knocked on his door to tell him so.
    Sometimes a smile and a hello mean much more than a conversation. So we did talk by I was respectful of his terms of communicating.

  • Jennifer Ryan March 18, 2009 (9:18 am)

    That gentleman passed in front of my house on his way home all the time. I was unloading groceries one day a few weeks ago when he walked by with a huge load himself. He must’ve had 6 full bags… I saw that one of the bags was from Bartell’s and commented that he must’ve walked a long way with such a heavy load. (I live about a block from him) First I could tell he wondered how I knew from where he had come, but I gestured to the bag and said the junction was a long ways from here. He told me I was darn right about that… then we chatted about something I don’t quite remember now. He smiled and went on his way. He reminded me of several of the older gentlemen that have lived in this neighborhood who have gone in the past. I will always cherish the times when old men wore hats and walked the neighborhoods smiling and greeting their neighbors.

  • KSJ March 18, 2009 (9:34 pm)

    Beautiful story! I’ve noticed that I meet more neighbors when I’m working in the garden out front. We get a lot of walkers by our house on a pleasant day. And it’s so nice to at least say hello, sometimes it makes my day.

  • JH March 19, 2009 (7:48 am)

    Either #1 You tried to have a conversation with this man and it just didn’t happen because he didn’t participate, or #2 This is so typical of the Seattle freeze.

    And I’m a native.

  • pcg March 24, 2009 (1:13 pm)

    Well his van was towed away today. I piled up his
    unopened newspapers beside the front porch today.
    I am sorry that his neighbors don’t realize that the unopened newspapers along a staircase is
    difinitive sign that there is no one home, and attracts crime. All so Sad.

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