I think that is exactly how I feel as well re: this has to be her choice.
What we feel might improve another’s life may not actually help.
I would still love to build something, and if she want it, awesome. If not, there are others who might. If they don’t, hell, it was a fun, good heart thing to do. Learning lesson and move on.
The thing that warms me most is how so many people here want to help.