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November 13, 2011 at 11:19 pm #601242
luckymom30ParticipantWhen your child of any age gets a birthday party invitation do you just not show up or call?
November 13, 2011 at 11:31 pm #740356
addParticipantA huge pet peeve – for any invitation. I don’t understand this lack of courtesy. Unless you’ve never hosted any kind of party or event, you must realize that people are planning for you and spending money on things like food, drink, party favors on your behalf – not to mention the impact of really disappointed kids, in the case of a child’s birthday party.
By your post I’m wondering if you (also) mean when people have replied that they will come, but then don’t show up or bother to call ??
November 13, 2011 at 11:37 pm #740357
luckymom30ParticipantDon’t bother to call and disappoint my daughter by not even showing up. Did they forget how to pick up the phone and dial? Yesterday my daughter attended a birthday party for her friend and was the only guest that showed up. Can you imagine how very sad and disappointed her friend must feel? Her parents for taking the time to make invitations, make food and open their house for a party and only one child attends?
We will be going through this grueling process of handing out invitations in afew weeks and playing the waiting game for any replies.
November 13, 2011 at 11:39 pm #740358
luckymom30ParticipantWe offer a ride to and from the party location, we pay for everything entry fee to roller skating, or ice skating rink which we rent the whole rink, we pay for food, drink. Everything. Our daughter knows it is not about gifts and just to have a fun time with her friends. Are people just more rude these days and it is unfashionable to reply yes or no or show up?
November 13, 2011 at 11:52 pm #740359
addParticipantI have actually called or emailed people a few days before a party to ask if they were planning to come if I hadn’t received a reply. I think it’s ridiculous that the host has to follow up on this!
I’m glad you posted this as a reminder for all of us – we are all very busy and there are times when things fall through the cracks. But really, there is no excuse for not replying to an invitation and/or calling the host if an emergency comes up (not just a better offer) and you are unable to come. I feel badly for your daughter’s friend and for her parents, too.
November 13, 2011 at 11:56 pm #740360
luckymom30ParticipantThanks add, you sound like a really nice person and someone who has manners. Wish your son or daughter attended the same school as our daughter and we could invite you to the party.
And yes there is no excuse to not call after receiving an invitation.
I also think it is awful that you had to email some people to fund out if they were attending your party. I would email or call the parents of these kids but we don’t know the kids or parents and do not have their numbers. So my daughter has a mission of sorts this week at school to get phone numbers of kids she wants at her party.
So parents put there if your child comes home with a party invitation please do the right thing and call the number on the invitation and tell the host you can or can not attend the party. Think of the birthday kid and their feelings before not replying or just not showing up for the party.
November 14, 2011 at 1:47 am #740361
BonnieParticipantThis is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. I think people should either rsvp YES or NO if it is a party where somebody actually gave out an invitation. Sometimes, though, kids invitations don’t make it home to the parent. One time I was so embarrassed because I had a parent call me to find out if my daughter was attending the party and I didn’t know about it. Embarrassing! Anyway, I think people should at least acknowledge that they were invited to a party.
November 14, 2011 at 3:56 am #740362
luckymom30ParticipantThank you Bonnie, this is one of one huge pet peeves too. I really hope that this posting will be read and people will change their habits and let people know one way or the other if they are attending the party. And if they say they are attending to follow through because it is costong the party thrower money to hold your reservation and we do not get a refund for guest who do not show up.
And heads up parents: get in the habit of questioning your kids if they had received an invitation and check inside their backpacks too. And let them know if they do receive an invitation that you need to call the people holding the party and not just ignore it.
If there was an easier way to go about inviting kids to parties, especially middle school age kids please by all means let me know, since we no longer go up to school on a regular basis so we do not meet the parents and kids. So many people are afraid to give out their phone numbers for one reason or the other but it makes it extremely difficult to have parties or kid get togethers.
November 14, 2011 at 4:54 am #740363
luckymom30ParticipantHas anyone tried asking the school to provide the address and mail the invitations? Not sure how this request would go over with school personnel.
November 14, 2011 at 5:01 am #740364
BonnieParticipantI haven’t asked but last year I didn’t have all the email addresses or phone numbers to all the kids my daughter wanted to invite so I just invited the entire class. At first she wanted to invite some of the girls but it’s a good thing that I invited the entire class because 1/2 of those girls on her list didn’t even acknowledge the invitation!
November 14, 2011 at 3:04 pm #740365
luckymom30ParticipantSounds familiar Bonnie. We have invited the entire class from since she was in preschool, however it does not help if the child does not bring home the invite or the parents don’t check the backpacks to find the invite. It gets alot harder when they reach middle school as they have up to 7 different teachers and you can’t invite the entire class. We don’t see or know the parents or kids. If we knew the parents, had a phone number or email we could contact them, but again so many people ae afraid to give out that information
November 14, 2011 at 8:59 pm #740366
HydrangeaMemberWhy don’t you just have her invite a couple of close friends for a movie and dinner, or a slumber party? You’ll save yourselves a lot of aggravation by not trying to make a massive production of it. Surely her close friends would RSVP, and if not, you’d know how to contact the parents to follow up.
November 14, 2011 at 11:46 pm #740367
luckymom30ParticipantHydrangea – I just might do just that.
November 14, 2011 at 11:47 pm #740368
BonnieParticipantHydrangea, I like your idea. My daughters birthday isn’t until May and I’m thinking of her just inviting a few friends. She disagrees though….
November 14, 2011 at 11:53 pm #740369
luckymom30ParticipantSo does my daughter she wants alot of kids at her party. Now if I just had the emails, phone numbers or names of the parents of the kids to invite to the party?
November 15, 2011 at 12:47 am #740370
GenHillOneParticipantThis doesn’t sound familiar to anyone else?! Since it comes up around this time regularly, and there are so many similarities (schools, age, even some of the EXACT same wording), maybe lattemom or cinnamon will reactivate their usernames and chime in with some ideas since you all have experienced the same frustration…
lattemom –
https://westseattleblog.com/forum/topic/class-directory?replies=18
cinnamon –
https://westseattleblog.com/forum/topic/are-rsvps-our-of-style
Good grief, that little search box is amazing.
November 15, 2011 at 1:22 am #740371
luckymom30ParticipantSanca has amazing birthday parties.
November 15, 2011 at 4:36 pm #740372
HydrangeaMemberI did think it sounded familiar, GenHillOne, but I didn’t make that extra effort to do the research you did. Very interesting!
November 15, 2011 at 9:11 pm #740373
GenHillOneParticipantHaha, I promise I didn’t spend more than a minute on my research, Hydrangea! I thought it was weird the last time around, so the keywords came easily. I just don’t think it’s cool to take people for a ride like that.
November 16, 2011 at 5:21 pm #740374
thesonicsMemberIf the invitation comes with an R.S.V.P, then I always call if we won’t be able to make it. I know it would mean a lot cause they would be able to lessen their per head servings and thus a smaller bill.
November 16, 2011 at 5:29 pm #740375
HydrangeaMemberWell, GenHillOne, it was a minute well spent. :-) I agree with you.
November 16, 2011 at 9:04 pm #740376
CaitParticipantBack in my day (early 90’s – ha!) my mom would make ME call and RSVP to every single party I was invited to and all my friends would do the same for my birthday. You write thank you notes to all your friends who come to your party and to the hosts of the parties you attend. I remember this used to be standard even as little (am I kidding myself here?) as 20 years ago!
I wish that I had held onto those habits and I dont’ know what made me stop but I do always try to RSVP, and if I need to cancel I do it as soon as I possibly can.
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