February 12, 2014 at 7:54 am
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ellenater
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Yep. I read that. It’s very good. I read another one from a male survivor perspective too but can’t find the link right now. :( Still looking…
I also agree with his perspective, somewhat. The thing about the rates of abuse being so high: it means that the rates of abusers are also that high, or nearly!! Since it is such a systemic problem, obviously we are not dealing with it correctly. And since studies show that untreated abusers abuse, it makes sense to focus on treating people rather than shaming people. I have to say that I have read a lot of impressive discourse on this, by a lot of different people. I will post that other link when I can find it…