A month and a half ago, Cara Kroenke at Southwest Youth and Family Services put out a call for help on behalf of the family members who survived an afternoon of deadly violence inside a West Seattle home in September – the murder-suicide shootings that left four members of the Phan/Harm family dead. We talked last night with Cara, who says a recent media report that the survivors were virtually homeless is not true – she has been working with them daily since October. They should shortly all have “permanent” new homes – she says the widower of the woman who opened fire now has an apartment of his own, while the other family members are awaiting final word on a 3-bedroom rental house. The woman who was shot, but survived, will get her bowling-alley job back when she’s ready to work again, Cara says. And the family is working to plan a memorial that in Cambodian tradition, according to Cara, is even more important than the first funeral – the 100-day remembrance. Read on for more about that and what the family needs now:

The 100-day remembrance is a two-day event planned for an area temple early next month. Cara read us the announcement over the phone; it is in English and Cambodian, with the family writing that the event is to “support (their loved ones’) spirits … to be reborn in a peaceful place.”

We asked Cara if the family still needs anything now. She was hesitant to share the long wish list, but we generally subscribe to “more information is better than less” – you never know when somebody might find one particular thing on a list with which they can help, so we asked her to share the full list, and here goes:

1. Men’s shoes for Kevin (17) size 8.5 men’s

2. Men’s slippers ‘’

3. Men’s jeans, 30/32

4. Men’s pants,30/32

5. Art set for child

6. X Box Games games

7. Silverware set for the family

8. Dish towels

9. Colander

10. Rice Cooker

11. Blender

12. Stand Mixer

13. Size XS/S clothes for mother

14. Barnes and Noble gift card for 12 year old

15. Makeup for 12 year old

16. Size 8 clothes for 7 year old girl

17. Size 0 clothes for 12 year old

18. Accessories for 12 year old

19. I Pod for 12 year old

20. Music for 12 year old

21. Anything and everything Twilight for the 12 year old

22. Backpack for Kevin (17)

23. Running Shoes for Kevin (size 8.5)

24. Men’s jogging suit (size large) for grandfather

25. Houseplants

26. Houseplants

27. And more houseplants

28. Indoor gardening set

29. Front door doormat

30. Back door doormat

31. Door mat for Grandfather

32. Albertson’s gift card

33. ‘’

34. Trader Joe’s Gift Card ‘’

35. ‘’

36. Hoodies (men’s L)

37. Blockbuster Gift Card

38. ‘’

39. Tape, stapler, scissor set for household

40. Vacuum Cleaner

41. Long Hallway rug

42. Table Cloth for Round Table

43. School Supplies

44. Hangers

A few pie in the sky items:

1. X Box Games

2. Cell phone for son (he is using his Dad’s and that makes him sad)

3. They love spaghetti, so I thought a Gift Card to the Spaghetti Factory would be nice

4. Christmas Decorations

If you can help with anything on the list, please contact Cara at Southwest Youth and Family Services, 206-937-7680, or e-mail CKroenke-Voelker (at) swyfs.org.