Thanks for your response Jbell. I work very hard too and often have the same frustrations as you. In fact, I wish I was naturally compassionate in all ways, but I'm not naturally toward people or things that I feel can fend for themselves (I have a soft spot for animals and children that I don't think can). After a lot of years and lot of thought I've come to my thoughts that I have to start thinking in a different term of reality than I would love to exist. I think it requires accepting a lot of things that are going to be a truth as long as I live.
I guess that's where I am but of course there are a lot of people with different opinions and we live in a country with hundreds of millions of people so we have to find a way to all live together.
P.S. - I went to Haborview for my general care when I first moved to Seattle. I still remember the doctor asking me why I went there when I had private insurance and I didn't understand at the time (from a small town). I'm very sensitive so honestly the sadness that I feel far overcomes any sort of judgment I have. I guess someone "rubbing their stink in my day" as you put it is a slight inconvenience for someone like me that has so much when they have so little.
Anyways, I hope I didn't come across as insensitive because I'm extremely sensitive, just trying to explain my personal journey from "what's mine is mine" to being more open.