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Rant: Smart dogs, stupid owners


  1. today while walking my dogs in Lincoln park we encountered a couple with two off leash dogs.

    both of my dogs were fully extended on retractable leashes doing the business dogs want a little space for in opposing directions.

    i hollered that my dogs are leashed for a reason.. and the man called his dog over and leashed them both...

    While i tried to pull the plastic bags and pick up after two dogs at opposing ends of retractable 16 ft leashes.. this woman aggressively starts walking down the trail toward me with her dog.

    mind you.. i have dogs on two sides of me at the end of their leashes...

    I yelled at her that my dogs weren't dog friendly as i moved towards one end and bent over to pick up poo...

    she kept coming.

    i yelled, would she please stop.. my dogs were not dog friendly... and she kept coming...

    i managed to barely control my dogs at the end of 16 foot leashes while the woman continued aggressively towards and past us.

    her dog backed up and did his best to put his owner between him and my dogs as they did their best to reach him.

    The stupid woman told me to have a nice day.

    i don't know what she was thinking... but the man with her was smart enough to stand back until i had both dogs completely under control... which is not easy to do with two agitated dogs at the end of their retractable leashes while holding bags of poop...

    Did she think because her dogs were bigger that she had nothing to fear from my smaller dogs? She needed to think again.

    Her dog wasn't that stupid.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  2. sorry.. i meant to put this in rants and can't get it back out once it's posted:(

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  3. I'm not sure I fully understand that the idea of leashing dogs absolving people of the responsibility for training them.

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  4. Stupid dog owner, there's no excuse for off leash dogs (despite what others may say here on the WSB forums).

    Yet retractable leashes should be banned IMO. Most people can't use them well (can't get them rectracted fast enough) and they technically violate the leash law in Seattle. Which is no leash over 10 feet (I believe).

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  5. PDieter..

    what ever gave you the impression that i am not training my dogs?

    In addition to training them ourselves, we have had them in training more than once with some pretty expensive trainers...

    I did everything i am supposed to do while training dogs to protect the safety of those around me... they were leashed.. they were under my control... and i warned the other dog owner more than once.

    I did everything except having them on a leash that is less than 10 ft long...

    Jimmyg..

    most of the time my dogs do not end up at the end of their 17 ft... they are seldom more than 9 ft...

    but we had stopped in an open area to do business.. and the dogs each chose their spot as far from the other as possible...

    I admit that was absolutely the worst circumstances to find myself in with an owner who was not willing to behave prudently...

    had i seen them ahead of time, i would never have allowed my dogs that much latitude.. but they were not visible when we stopped.. they emerged off leash from a wooded area mid squat.. so to speak...

    and even then i kept my dogs from interacting with her dog...

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  6. So I'm confused, besides you and your dogs, there was 2 other people and 2 dogs. The man leashed the 2 dogs and the woman walked towards you with the dogs on a leash? I'm not sure that you can tell people where to walk in a public area, Lincoln Park is still public correct?

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  7. I gotta jump in here as well...While I certainly appreciate JoB's wise warnings to other dog owners, having TWO 'non-dog friendly' dogs on 16' retractable leashes is EQUALLY as irresponsible as the other owner who ignored the warnings-

    there is simply NO way to control your dog, no matter how large or small, on a retractable leash. And, it gives your dog all the power to control YOU and take you where IT wants to go.
    -

    A 6-9 foot fixed leash is MORE than enough room for any dog to do their business while out for a walk. Time for JoB to get some Cesear Milan videos...
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    let me reiterate..I DO appreciate JoB's 'warnings' to the other dog owners. Really. But, knowing you have non-dog friendly dogs puts EXTRA owness on YOU to maintain their control as best as you can.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  8. Irukandji
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    Irukandji

    Retractable leashes are a riot. We have a neighbor with two little fuzzballs that he walks on retractable leashes. They run the circus! I don't have the discipline to do all the work it takes to have two dogs on retractable leashes (nor do I have a valium prescription). If my little tyrants get to go anywhere, it's on a split leash so they stick together, and a leash length I can handle.

    JoB, if I remember right, works with rescue dogs - a whole level of commitment far beyond what it takes to manage pugs. It's easy to forget that dog owners all have different stories, though we all ought respect the basics of the law. All part of why I adore Marymoor despite the distance.

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  9. again? really?

    i'll get the popcorn....

    thee

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  10. I can appreciate JoB's warning, but if you have two dogs on a long leash and the dogs are so very unfriendly that you have to warn other people with dogs to stay away from you, then maybe you need to figure out some other way to get them out for exercise.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  11. vincent
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    vincent

    Retractable Leashes are illegal in the city of seattle, by virtue of violating the maximum length allowed. For reasons as you described.

    You should have gotten a ticket, as well as the off leash dog owner.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  12. Anonymous
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    It seems it's actually 8 feet.

    ***The law states that it is unlawful for any owner of a domestic animal, except cats and pigeons, to allow it to run at large, but that pets may be removed from the premises of the owner if restrained by a leash that is eight feet or shorter, and if in physical control of a person.***

    http://www.cityofseattle.net/animalshelter/didknow.htm

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  13. Mid-squat or not, if your dogs were in danger from off leash dogs they should have been yarded in immediately to right next to you.

    I'm unaware of any dog suffering long standing trauma from having to pinch one off a bit early.

    And in all honesty, as others above have said: 2 dogs being handled by one human that aren't dog friendly in a park well-known for off leash violators shouldn't be on retractable leashes.

    An aside on retractable leashes: they teach your dog to "pull". We weren't allowed to use them while raising service dog pups because of that.

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  14. Oh and JT thanks for looking up the law. I was trying to remember what the legal length was, yet was too lazy to stop typing to look it up.

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  15. my work here is done

    ;)

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  16. As you were PDieter, as you were.

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  17. Commenting on retractable leashes, I do wish people would be more careful with where their dog is running in a busy, urban area. My best friend in NYC walking his dog down a Manhattan sidewalk, and the dog started running and releasing the length of the leash. Unfortunately, a car came driving out of a driveway at that instant, didn't see the dog darting out, and he ran over and killed the dog. Whenever I see dogs running like that, I cringe at what could happen.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  18. mellaw6565
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    mellaw6565

    JoB- I'm sorry this happened as it can be unnerving. However, I'm with the crowd on this one - you need control leashes, not retractable ones. I'd be glad to help you find some good ones that will work for your dogs:)

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  19. Perhaps i didn't explain the situation well, but tell me.. what would have changed in this situation had my dogs been on an 8 foot lead?

    I was in the middle of a clearing with my dogs.

    In fact, the only reason they were on an extended lead at the time of the incident is that i was in the middle of an empty clearing and had been exercising them.

    At the point that i noticed her, her partner and her unleashed dogs were playing at the edge of a clearing... they were not walking purposefully down a path in my direction.

    After her dog was leashed, she chose to walk directly at me at substantial speed in spite of the fact that i clearly warned her repeatedly that there was the danger of a confrontation...

    she chose to come within leash length of my dogs... in fact at one point she was substantially closer than 17 ft... but i had already successfully pulled the dogs closer to me.

    It was a clearing.. there was plenty of room to go around me. She heeled her dog in next to her and charged at me and my dogs... in spite of the fact that i warned her that my dogs weren't dog friendly and that i was dealing with both leashes and filled poop bags.

    In this situation, the only reason there was no confrontation is because her dog was smart enough to move out of the way.

    In fact, had the dog obeyed her and walked where she put him, there would have been a confrontation... provoked by her.

    I was not reporting the behavior of a space cadet here... this was not some bumbling keystone cops comedy unfolding over a long period of time...

    i was reporting deliberate provocation which occurred in less time than you can speed walk half a block's distance.

    You might have had less reason to chastise me if my dogs had been sitting next to me on leash..

    but that wouldn't have changed her behavior one bit.

    And in this particular situation would have likely resulted in far more danger to me and my dogs.

    The suggestion that I will always be at fault for choosing to walk my dogs at all in a public park simply because other people frequently choose to disobey the law and walk their dogs off leash... seems more than a little wrong headed to me.

    I choose times when there are few people in the park and choose routes which are generally not much used.

    At the first sign of another dog, i pull my dogs in next to me... walk off the path a substantial distance regardless of the terrain and wait for the other dog to pass... whether those dogs are leashed or not.

    I was in the process of doing just that as this woman chose to walk rapidly and deliberately right at me and my dogs.

    I commented on this instance because it was so blatant...

    I admit i am more accustomed to seeing the "I am entitled and my dog can kick the crap out of your dog.. i like to see them fight" attitude from men than i am from women... but this type of incident happens too frequently...

    i have been injured more than once while my dogs were sitting next to my knee.. off the path... by a dog or dog and owner combination that approached and provoked confrontations after they had been warned to leash their animals and leave mine alone.

    Should i be happy to report that my dogs have never been injured during one of those confrontations??? .. just me... and their dogs.

    JimmyG...... your pronouncements about what i should and shouldn't be doing with my dogs is more than a bit judgmental...

    You don't know my dogs.. you don't know my level of skill handling them and you were not there.

    i am sure armchair quarterbacking is a lot of fun.. but to be just a tad catty... your dog walker tale pretty much disqualifies you from having the kind of expertise to pass that kind of judgment on other dog owners.

    but hey, we all get to have opinions...

    mellaw6565....

    thanks, but i don't need assistance purchasing control leashes.. i already own them.. and train my dogs on them.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  20. I keep my dog on a tight short leash. I walk her because she is a dog and needs walking and loves it. She is a shelter dog with abuse issues from a hoarding home. If any off leash dog runs up to her I yell to the owner that she is not friendly to aggressive - even "friendly" aggressive dogs.

    If they get too close they get bared teeth, and if they get closer they get nipped. It's happened a few times. She is just defending her space. If she were off leash at a park she would simply run away - and she does every time, and fast. But on a leash she feels threatened, and rightly so. My dog is leashed, yours is not. I'm right.

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  21. i dunno, pdieter. i hate to disagree with yr well played and pithy comments, but this topic/OP surely has not gotten quite enough attention yet.

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  22. guidosmom
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    guidosmom

    Job, I am sorry that you had a bad experience. I used to go to Lincoln Park at least twice a week, but now only go maybe once every other month due to similar encounters. It's not fair. I now pick up one of my dogs when we encounter an off leash dog, which is probably one of the worst things you can do because I don't want to encourage his "naughty" behavior, but we've had too many dangerous encounters where he's been attacked by offleash dogs and I've almost been injured trying to protect him. I know Animal Control has been out more often and doing a great job. I have considered trying to organize a group of "on leash dog" people to get together and walk their dogs on leash, because at least if there were more of us we'd be able to fend off the off leash dogs easier. And, it would be a great opportunity to allow our dogs to socialize in a safe leashed environment while walking. I am sorry about what you experienced. :(

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  23. OK Thee,

    I bow to your greater knowledge of these things. So I say take the leash off this topic and let it run free; or at least pee on your leg.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  24. westseattledood
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    pdieter ! LOL !

    And do we not have cute dog avatars on these forums?

    Good grief Guidosmom and PDieter - your dogs are almost as cute as mine ;).

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  25. guidosmom
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    guidosmom

    westseattledood, I have always noticed your avatar. Your dogs is adorable. Looks like an Irish wolfhound I used to have. I love the sunglasses, but I think you need to put a rain coat on your dog instead. :) Adorable!

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  26. westseattledood
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    westseattledood

    Guidosmom -

    Wow, I. wolfhounds are beautiful gentle giants. Levi's not quite that big - he's 100 lbs.

    And, you are so right! I need to get a more seasonal shot of him in his snowshoeing jacket and snow booties. I tried a raincoat - he doesn't like the rain, so the rainjacket was a very negative association and he just wouldn't go along with it. Snow, however, is a different story. He's a snow bunny.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  27. ok, i just loaded a pic of one of my dogs. she's laffing at this thread!

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  28. Pray tell Job, how does my "dog walker" tale disqualify me from commenting on your tale of woe in the park? I'd be interested in hearing the rationale behind that because just as you say I've no way to assess your level of dog expertise, you have no way to assess mine.
    Your own words in your OP were "I managed to barely control my dogs at the end of their 16 foot leashes". That right there should cause you a bit of self-reflection and hopefully some changes in behavior.
    Again, the woman you had to deal with was a tool, yet almost the majority of your post at #19 consists of the reasons why you don't need to take responsibility for any part of the encounter.
    As to armchair QBing, that's what 95% of the posters on this thread have done, and what happens sometimes when posting on a public forum.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  29. littlebrowndog
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    I am at an intensive training stage now with my 7 month old puppy. Because he will be an agility dog he accompanies me to very, very crowded and high intensity agility trials. He began doing this at age 4 months, when I first got him. He would have begun doing it at 12 weeks if I would have had him at that age. His behavior has been excellent at every trial except for some barking in his crate the first couple of times. He is often in spaces so crowded that he is brushing up against other dogs while barking is going on all around him.

    I am also working hard with him at the command "with me" which is heel except for on both sides. He is a very high energy dog, great performance prospect but a challenge to train. Adolescence is adding to it. I walk with him at Alki on a somewhat loose 6 foot leash telling him "with me" and expecting him to walk at my hip while maintaining eye contact with me. Great theory, and we are making good progress. However, despite his perfect behavior in the wild setting of agility trials when I get him on the sidewalk at Alki he has a new tendency to break his "with me" and lunge at the end of his leash and bark wildly at oncoming dogs. He didn't do it his first few months of training. It's very clearly not playful, it is communicating that he does not have friendly intentions towards the other dog. Now that he has recently developed this behavior, when a dog is approaching I immediately shorten my grip on the leash and insist that his total focus is on me, not where he is walking. If that doesn't do the trick then he gets put into a sit-stay with eye contact with me. Now I know that is simple good dog training and many of you do that. I have seen it lots of times. My point is that when he is acting like this the oncoming dog walker almost always continues walking straight at us with little distance between their dog and mine. Not wise---but absolutely within their right to do so. His behavior is my total responsibility. I never use flexis, but if I did I would instantly reel my dog in when another dog approached. My "dog reactive" dog is fully mine to control even if they are walking briskly at me (could be seen by my dog as aggressive). It is my belief that my reactive dog is totally my responsibility even if some other person is doing something that I consider foolish, like not giving us a wider berth if they see him acting like that and even trying to allow their dog to greet him while I am telling them that he is not friendly at that moment (although when he is behaving well he greets others just fine). I have found that in places with a lot more space in between dogs (e.g. a park) there are some dogs that become reactive towards others. Certainly he is showing that even though he is perfect at agility trials. So I think that those of us with known reactive dogs even in parks with large amounts of space need to be prepared to use the same special training techniques that we would use in close quarters. I am very unhappy about loose dogs in parks but because they are a reality I don't go to those parks. I ought to be able to but I don't. So I no longer sweat it. I should add that I am an experienced dog trainer and trained my service dog on my own; he did not have a 'professional service dog trainer.'

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  30. gunnerddog
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    gunnerddog

    So...it seems to me the woman walking her dog had her dog under better control than JoB.

    While she was walking her dog offleash, JoB was basically doing the same thing too by having her dogs at such a length that made it difficult/impossible to immediately control them.

    Your justification of having them at twice the legal limit of leash is that you choose times when the park isn't heavily used and use spaces not heavily traveled. Well, do you think the other woman might use the same justification for walking her dog offleash?

    Since you always take your dogs a substantial ways off the path, regardless of the terrain when another dog, leashed or not, approaches, why couldn't you do that in this instance? Is it because your dogs were not under your control at such long leash lengths?

    What was so important about that bag of poo? Drop the bag, reel in your dogs, move off the path (which is your method of avoiding conflict), and pick the bag up when the "stupid" "agressive" woman with her dog who was not out of control passed, then go retreive your poo bag.

    Having said that, I don't disagree with your frustration about the other woman's behavior. I just think you were upset about what happened. You chose to vent here and didn't get the reaction from fellow WSBers you were expecting. No need to get so defensive.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  31. i couldn't move my dogs out of her way this time because she was rapidly and aggressively moving towards me and my dogs and did not give me any opportunity to do so...

    I am fairly certain that had my dogs been dog friendly, they still would have reacted protectively to her behavior.

    i got my dogs under control and moved out of the way quickly for her partner and his dog who moved past me at a normal speed.. following in his wake.

    I accept that i have difficult dogs... and that the burden of responsibility is mine...The responsibility of these two dogs literally affects every part of my life.

    However.. i am weary of assuming the responsibility for people who are too arrogant or stupid or malicious to behave responsibly...

    And i am about out of patience with those who believe that every dog should behave in a particular manner and that it is their right to break the rules or to approach your dog when you ask them not to.

    If we put people down as rapidly for behavioral problems caused by bad parenting and abuse as we do dogs, there would be a deafening silence on this blog.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  32. I didn't anticipate two pages...I'm out of bags ;(

    [/kickingleavesonthepoo]

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  33. gunnerddog
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    gunnerddog

    "And i am out of patience with those who believe that every dog should behave in a particular manner and that it is their right to breatk the rules..."

    Haven't you admitted to the fact that you were breaking the rules by having your dogs on leashes that were twice the legal length?

    Again JoB, not trying to pile on, but from everything you have posted, it sounds like the other woman had her dog under control.

    Yours are not dog friendly and were not under your immediate control. Your dogs were over 30 feet away from each other when they were doing their business. How can you control two dogs that far from each other?

    Let me restate that I don't think this woman was particularly considerate, I don't see that it was her responsibility to make sure your dogs wouldn't attack hers.

    Time after time I hear people on this blog complain about how people let their dogs run wild offleash. Well, just because a dog is on leash doesn't mean it's under control.

    Yes, I wish more dog owners were considerate and realized their responsibility doesn't end at the end of their leash. Reading the surrounding environment, other people, traffic, other dogs, etc. is important when walking your dogs.

    However, if I'm walking my dog on leash, which this woman had done by the time she got to you, why is the onus on her to make sure your dogs are well behaved?

    My dog occasionally gets surly in the presence of unaltered male dogs. Guess what, I make sure I reel him in and get him out of the situation either by making him sit off to the side while the other dog passes or redirecting him away.

    You were not able to do that because your dogs were not under your immediate control. Does that make you a bad owner? Of course not. But I hope this serves as a reminder to all dog owners reading this that control of your dog is your responsibility.

    Seeing other people behave "irresponsibly" may be a signal that you need to remove your dogs from that situation immediately. If that means leaving the poo until the other dog passes, then do it. But that can only be done if your dogs are under your control.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  34. gunnerddog
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    gunnerddog

    PDieter, happy to let this thread die. More than happy.

    (picking up Gunner's poo and heading home)

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  35. jimmyG..

    i apologize for being catty...

    A dog walker who avoids confrontations with other animals while out walking by avoiding entire areas of town is delusional at best.

    From the clothing worn by the woman in the park yesterday, i can assure you that she lives in one of the "better" areas of town...

    I suspect she would be better behaved on a well lit public street near her home than she was in the privacy of a nearly vacant park... but that wouldn't protect a dog walker on a dark and deserted street...

    I have had occasion to learn a lot about dog aggressive behavior since adopting these two.

    I only have one dog aggressive dog.. but the other will back her if he feels she is in any way threatened... and they are both protective of me.

    I have been working with them (training) daily for over two years now and have made incredible progress... but it is a very long road.

    Shiba rescue organizations typically don't adopt out Shibas with aggression issues.. they are either kept by the rescue homes or euthanized.

    In fact, the rescue organization i got my dog aggressive shiba from lied about her behavior. i didn't catch it because she was the alpha dog in that pack and the little abused shiba i brought to meet her was so tickled to have dog company that he would have done anything to make her like him. it was only when i took her for a walk on my own that i realized she had a problem.

    instead of taking her back or euthanizing her, i kept her and have worked with her... but she will never be anything but dog aggressive on and off leash if given the opportunity.

    She has learned to control that aggression better and she will get better at it with time, but her first instinct will always be to attack first, establish dominance and make friends later.

    however... if you didn't have a dog.. you'd really enjoy meeting her.

    you wouldn't enjoy meeting my little boy so much.. he was badly abused by people in his last home... and we nearly euthanized him last year before finding a dog training organization called Pack Works who are incredible with dogs with serious behavioral problems.

    unfortunately, there are a lot of Shibas euthanized because people buy these cute little dogs who are incredibly independent and as close to feral as a domesticated animal gets... and don't spend the time and effort necessary to train them.

    and then of course, there are those like my boy's former owner who think it is cute to have this ferocious little dog until they abuse the animal and it defends itself.

    I thought i knew a lot about dogs with abuse issues until i adopted these two... who are sweet dogs...

    I successfully rehabilitated abused akitas and german shepherds and have rehabilitated rescued fighting dogs.. including pit bulls for others...

    any of those problem dogs could have safely walked off leash next to me in any circumstance.. and i know this because they did.

    I was one of those owners who didn't see what the problem was having my dogs off leash as long as they were well behaved and in voice control....

    I now have a far better understanding of why the leash laws... and basic courtesy are so important as more people buy dogs and depend upon training videos to train their dogs.. sure that they have all the answers.

    But as much as i have learned about dogs with aggression issues from these two, i have learned more about humans with aggression issues who act out on their own or through their own dogs.

    And i have learned a lot about arrogance... especially the arrogance of those who think they know more about your animal than you do and ignore all requests to stay away.. with or without their leashed or unleashed animals.

    For all i know the woman in the park yesterday saw the situation with my dogs as a perfect training opportunity for hers...

    she nearly got both her dog and herself bit for her arrogance...

    The only thing that kept the confrontation provoked by her from becoming a serious incident was my training and experience.

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  36. gunnerdog...

    yes the woman had her dog under control.. though thankfully not as well as she would have liked or her dog would have been bitten.

    As i stated, her dog had more sense than she did.

    However, calling her behavior inconsiderate is certainly minimizing the aggressive way in which she proceeded to put herself and her dog as close to my dogs as she could.

    As for walking my dogs on retractable leashes...

    yup i do break the law occassionally by letting my dogs run to the end of their leash and sniff an open area to their heart's content.

    I let them run wild in circles around me chasing one another with play bows and attacks and sudden changes in direction... all while keeping my hands firmly on both their leashes and staying aware of any movement in any direction around me so they can play safely.

    We had just finished doing that and were taking the resulting potty break when they appeared.

    No, i couldn't compensate for her aggressive behavior quickly enough to pull my dogs in next to me in a sit/stay....

    But i can see why it is so much easier to blame a woman with two dogs on retractable leashes letting them have a good time in an open field than it is to criticize a woman for being aggressive... since she was perfectly "in control of her dog"

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  37. "If we put people down as rapidly for behavioral problems caused by bad parenting and abuse as we do dogs, there would be a deafening silence on this blog."

    Bravo, JoB! Even considering yr admirable key-pounding skills, this one takes the cake! You've graced us with line certain to win some sort of award at this year's WSB year-end banquet!

    Keep up the impressive work you're doing!

    --thee

    Posted 3 years ago #         
  38. And yet none of that matters. I can assure you if patrollers were in the area (which they are more often now) and saw the confrontation, the UNLEASHED dog's owner would have gotten the ticket, not JoB. No one would be pulling out a ruler. Be serious.

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  39. What The
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    I can't take my dog Edtard (Avatar) out to parks anymore...he can't take the humiliation and only responds to the name "Kitty"....

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  40. i didn't mean to leave this conversation in the "there.. take that" mode...

    i soaked my head which is shorthand for soaking in a tub and spending some time with my own thoughts... and while rambling something you might find interesting bubbled up...

    i wonder why it is we spend so much time talking about control.. even when it comes to training our children and pets?

    i am as guilty as any.. expecting parents to "control their children" in public..

    when what i really mean is that we should all take responsibility to do the best we can in the circumstances that present themselves...

    i was very frustrated by the circumstances that presented themselves yesterday... and still am.

    but the reason i am upset is because no matter how well i do my job as pack leader of my dogs.. no matter how well i train them or how well i am "in control" of them... i can never perfectly control the circumstances.. even when i have them securely fenced in their own yard or contained in my home.

    yes, i took a risk allowing them to frolic at the end of their flexi leashes.. but it was a calculated risk... i was aware of my surroundings and aware of where my dogs were and what they were doing.. and they were leashed so i had some control...

    i did miscalculate the degree of threat caused by one woman bent on having her way... even then, i managed damage control well enough for all of us to escape injury.

    i was blindsided yesterday and this morning by those who chose to focus on the fact that my dogs had issues and were on flexileashes....

    rather than on the fact that the woman was walking aggressively towards me and my dogs... a situation that would have provoked difficulties in any protective dog.. let alone those with dog aggression issues...

    so i got a little testy... but given some time and distance to think about this... it isn't all about me after all... i am left with some philosophical questions...

    why is it when someone is in difficulty... as i clearly was when i was surprised by her actions..

    we are so much more likely to feel that the person created their circumstances and deserves whatever happens to them... and jump to a lot of conclusions to justify doing so?

    i suspect it comes down to this concept of control that keeps coming up... being in control..not losing control.. controlling the situation...

    we seem somehow to believe that if we are in control... we can prevent the unexpected.

    but more than that.. i think this idea of control speaks to the core of what can become dangerous behavior...

    "i am in control therefore i have a right to do what i want as long as i am stronger and more capable and if they are not in control it is their fault if anything happens"

    that concept... phrased differently... is certainly at the core of my dog's aggressive behavior towards other dogs.

    it's a dog eat dog world out there...

    except it isn't.. as illustrated by the other dog's behavior.

    anyone who trains a dog knows better.. at least on some level.

    Even at it's best, training a dog has less to do with you being in control of the dog than the animal's willingness to follow your lead as it's pack leader.. and your ability to anticipate and short circuit situations before perceived threats and/or prey mediated impulse behavior kicks in and creates a situation where correction is the only option.

    i think this idea of control is vastly overrated... but i am still really big on responsibility...

    i think we should all do our best to to not only avoid situations that could endanger ourselves or others but to do everything we can to mitigate those situations once they occur...

    like dogs mostly do when left to their own devices.

    in other words.. i think we do a lot better when we worry less about being in control and being right...

    and concentrate more on doing the best we can to make things turn out right...

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  42. PDieter..easy to blame JoB, since you were not there to see what actually happened. I wasn't either, but I have met her dogs, and I understand why she did what she did. She is an extremely responsible dog owner.

    Thee and What the...if you don't agree with what's being discussed in a thread, then don't read it, if you can't respond constructively. There is no point in making fun of anyone on here, whether it's done in fun, or not so fun, but sarcastically. It reflects badly on you, and makes one think that you might not ever to be taken seriously on here. Give it a rest, for goodness sake. You've both contributed positively on this forum in the past. What you're doing here is uncalled for, in my book.

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  43. PDieter's post 41 says it all.

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  44. beachdrivegirl
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    beachdrivegirl

    I think that by posting something on a public forum you are openign it up for debate, discussion, and written exchange. you may not like what you hear but over all it probably will make you a better person b/c it will open you up to different view points. (if you have an open mind and all....)

    I havent met JoB's dogs. But I do know that I have a somewhat aggresive dog that I hae on a retractable leash. B/c of my dogs behavior, I have learned, to act responsible and always retract his leash and lock it in place. This is b/c I understand that being on public property it is never another dogs owners responsibilty to watch out for my dog. In my book if the other dog owner had enough time to call their dog, leash their dog, and begin to awlk *aggressively* towards JoB then JoB should have had plenty of time to stop what she was doing and retract her dogs leashes. I think that this was how a lot of people read the post.

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  45. I believe that JoB stated that she was in the process of retracting said leashes when the woman came upon them, that it all happened in a matter of seconds? Did I misunderstand that?

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  46. beachdrivegirl
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    beachdrivegirl

    Well i guess my leashes retract a bit faster because I know that my leash would retract in the amount of time it took another dog owner to call their dog, leash their dog, and begin to walk towards me but then again thats just my personal experience.

    And reading back to JoB's original post she only continually mentioned picking up their poo. Not retracting their leashes.

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  47. I am not a dog owner, never have been. But...if I was someone walking a dog in a park, and I was coming upon a person with two dogs, and they warned me that their dogs were not "dog friendly", would I really continue to "advance aggressively" toward said dogs? I don't think so. Perhaps JoB didn't move fast enough for you, perhaps she didn't expect the people with unleashed dogs to ultimately aggressively walk towards her...none of us was there, so we don't really know the entire situation. But , as someone who owned a dog, and presumably cares and loves my dog, I would most definitely steer clear of someone who warned me about unfriendly dogs...guess it's just a matter of different thinking. Maybe we just need to divide the blame and consider it done, huh. And maybe, just maybe, we all need to stop making excuses for those who feel it's just fine to have your dog unleashed in a park, until someone calls you on it, huh.....

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  48. roundthesound
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    Thanks beachdrivegirl, I was thinking the same thing! How does one walk aggressively?

    JoB, you said; "i think we should all do our best to to not only avoid situations that could endanger ourselves or others but to do everything we can to mitigate those situations once they occur...". Next time you are thinking about bringing your aggressive dogs to a public park please reread this thread and avoid situations where you are endangering others and their dogs. You should practice your leash retracting skills too.

    Maybe these people didn't speak English well enough to understand the warning. Maybe they assumed that people who can't control their dogs don't bring them to public parks.

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  49. alki_2008
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    alki_2008

    I'll ditto #46 and #48.

    The whole "aggressively" thing is so subjective anyway.

    Here's a thought: maybe the woman wanted your dogs to attack her/her dog so that she could sue you and get more money to support the expenses of living "in one of the "better" areas of town...". :-p

    By the way - I don't think there's any need to make assumptions about the woman because of the way she's dressed. There was a whole thread about classism/elitism/etc...and making judgments about someone being 'rich' is just as misguided as making judgments about someone that's 'less fortunate'. My 2 cents.

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  50. GenHillOne
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    FWIW, I interpreted the description of aggressive walking as the woman's attempt at a pissing match. I can visualize a "harrumph...no one's going to tell ME where I can or cannot walk" - followed by a beeline toward Jo. Doesn't sound like her dog wanted to participate in her bravado.

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