Thanks for saying all this, Jo.
As for me, I'll drop the politics from Christmas Eve through New Years, but that's the best I can do. As a rule, I try not to poop on other people's grief threads, but you know, it's hard to resist when people are saying stuff like: "Why? Why? Why did this happen?"
I mean . . . correct me if I'm wrong but . . . when you say: Why? –aren't you inviting people to answer?
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There's a built-in paradox with public tragedies. If the tragedy was preventable (and they usually are) then when's the best time to talk about prevention? Is it when people are still feeling the full weight of the tragedy and can see it on their TV screens every night? Or is it months later, when they're thinking about where to take the family for summer vacation, or what the Mariners' chances are?
Of course the best time to talk about it is when the grief is still fresh. On the other hand, when people are grieving, the very last thing they want to talk about is . . . anything contentious.
Unfortunately, there are no road maps here. There's no agreed-on period of non-debate after a tragedy, and you don't hear people saying things like, "I'll be ready to talk about politics again in exactly one week, so get back to me then."
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Want another personal observation? OK, here's one that I think is relevant to this topic. Then I'll quit the field . . .
After 9/11, I remember people saying that it was the "end of joy" the "death of irony" and so on. Of course, those predictions were not borne out, but there was something very nearly as awful that did happen. In the immediate aftermath of 9/11, before the dust had even settled, a war was begun. And before that war was even concluded, ANOTHER war was begun. Supposedly the two wars were related to the same thing (terrorism) but if you had the temerity to ask to review the plan for either one, you'd be roundly shushed.
"How dare you bring politics into this now, when people are still mourning, when our troops are fighting and dying!"
Mm. That was more than 11 years ago. It's sobering to think that some little boy who was barely out of kindergarten on 9/11 could be fighting in Afghanistan today. Yet even now, Americans still do not want to talk frankly about what we're doing there, even though I could tell you in a New York second.*
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* Losing