Thank you all so much for your thoughtful replies and perspectives. I have SO much to learn! First, of COURSE I am also concerned about humanely-produced dairy products.
funkietoo: Do you inquire about the origins of the dairy products when you eat out or purchase foods from bakeries? If so, how do folks generally receive such inquiries? I guess I'm just worried that I don't know exactly the words to use when asking about the sources of things -- "ethically raised"? "humanely-sourced"? And of course I'm a little over-concerned about being perceived as "difficult" by staff. 'Guess I should stop caring so much what others think of me, but I admit to feeling a bit self-conscious about querying too deeply about ingredients.
It would be so much easier for everyone if all food proprietors would list sources for their dishes! Ahhh, a girl can dream, right? ;-)
In terms of everyone in the family eating as consciously as I am endeavoring to -- not going to happen. Spouse is too cost-conscious to endorse a wholesale switch . . . we already choose organic/humanely raised dairy products, grains, and fruits/vegetables when we shop, but we have not been as stringent (at all) in our dining-out or prepared meal choices.
The largest dilemma we have is, honestly, our reliance on Dream Dinners. We order dinners from them every month and have grown accustomed to the ease and convenience of their service. However, I know they do not source locally, organically, or humanely, so I feel that we are falling way short of (my) ideals in at least 1/3 of our family meals.
There simply isn't any comparably-priced meal preparation service in the Seattle area. Every other one I've looked into (Delicious Planet, Lucky Palate, Dancing Women) is significantly more expensive -- nearly 100 percent.
Since only 1 out of the 4 of us (me!) is concerned about these dietary issues, I can't justify the expense of leaving Dream Dinners. Maybe that sounds like a rationalization, but I'm just trying to be realistic about what would fly (financially and practically) in our family.
I found a couple of other sites that identify local businesses that source humanely:
http://www.eatwellguide.org/i.php?pd=Home (Input zip code on top left of page and it will show you a long list of such businesses in our area.)
The Cook Local site has a page on Seattle restaurants that source humanely (http://www.cooklocal.com/?p=1648), but when you click on the link to the "list" that they've compiled, it (only) includes restaurants that source *meat* ethically -- not dairy products. It would be nice to be able to assume that those establishments also have made the commitment to humane dairy products, but I'm not sure that's possible (without asking directly).